Surrounded by guys

[Oni]

There's this girl that i've been getting closer with lately whom i'm having trouble just talking to her. When she's not surrounded with her friends, she's surrounded by a bunch of old guy friends of mine, whom i ditched because they act like a bunch of kids and acts stupid to be funny. Sometimes in class when the girl approaches me, the guy friends will always tag along. Annoying little ****.

Another problem is I can tell the girl is shy because a lto of time she would look down or away when i try to make eye contact. i realized trying to make a conversation with a girl who is shy is a lot more difficult than those that aren't because shy girls don't talk as much so it's difficult to keep the conversation alive. There's a lto of kino involve betweehn her and i as she will always lean on me or try to get close to me when wer next to each other but i'm really trying to improve my relation with her. sadies hawkin dance coming up so you know what i mean .

Any inputs on these two problems?

 

[j8snx1]

Here's my opinion, hope it helps!

1) Those ****blocks I mean guys that act stupid to be funny are just simple stumbleblocks that you can definitely overcome. HOW?

You can simply isolate her from those guys!
Just say something like

"Hey guys I'm going to borrow her for a minute."
or
to the girl, "Hey ______, c'mon let's get out of this joint, it's getting old."
Or whatever. You have imagination and lips, so brew something up better

2) Yes, shy girls can be a pain sometimes, but the pro of having a shy girl is, is that you're in control 99.9% of the time...which can be for better or for worse. You're probably familiar with the DJ material, so unleash your conversation skills! Keep those open-ended questions and interesting/funny stories coming.

As for ****y/Funny stuff, I'd do it pretty lightly if we became acquainted with each other recently. But since you two are pretty close***assuming from you saying that you two do lots of kino*** you can lay down the C&F/Kino on her (with control of course) and she won't get offended, as long as you don't go overboard!

 

[DJ4Real]

The guys who are "interferring" are called "**** blocks."

The real way to eliminate a **** blocker is to have the better "conversation." In addition, you want to play it cool and smooth because it shows her that you are in control.

To note something for you. When a **** blocker comes along don't start "showing off" because women will instantly sense that you are trying to "impress" her. Trying to impress a woman gives her 100% control and that's a big mistake.

 

[Oni]

I see. Well conversation has never been the best of my skills so i will work on it. It's tough since those **** blockers that i speak of is always making her laugh and it might be difficult getting her away when my conversation skill isnt top notch yet.

 

[Rint]

Be one of them then, even if that may sound like **** advice hear me first. Wat i meant was hang around her when they do are they stopping u? They dissing you? then just say wat you scared? Or something like that. They get up in ur face get up in their's first. They wont do **** in front of the girl. U just need to give her something the other guys dont.

 

[Oni]

Today during class time i couldnt get to her at all. some mr. nice guy was tutoring her. i felt like my afc days again ugh i just couldnt get my game up.

Observation: it seemed i am too quiet, next week im gonna make sure i talk more.

THis weekend im going to ask her out to study together. Any tips on advice during that day? I sure hope shes free.

 

[shiningshadow]

I think you probably know what to do during that study time.

 

[Oni]

I was thinking finally im able to spend time with just her i can start progressing things with her. but i'm not sure where to really begin. i was thinking maybe some C/F, then go grab something to eat with her and possibly set up a date from there/