Sure, these "tips" are great, but only on a surface!

[WORKEROUTER]

I've been visiting these forums for quite a while. I've gone from a total lameo to a go who has pretty good success with the ladies.

My pattern went kinda like this:

1. Unable to approach girls. Would turn away like a little baby. Only thought I could approach average girls, and even then, I was shy as hell. Occasionally I would grab my balls and do it, but usually I just made excuses.

2. Started being more ballsy. Started forcing myself to approach. Still only approached average girls. I was trapped in a matrix, and it stemmed from my lack of confidence.

3. Pimp stage. Got to the point where I can pinpoint a girl in nearly any venue and approach her. Have picked up girls in strip clubs (my fav.), coffee shops, grocery stores, street corners, bus stops, etc. No longer afraid of hot girls. In fact, I don't even mess with the average ones.

The question is...what brought me from step 2 to step 3?

I TRIED to create a sense of confidence in step 2. I TRIED to dress well. I TRIED to follow all the other "DJ" tips.

But what REALLY made me succeed was DOING things. It wasn't until I got a motorcycle, started my own business, started boxing and wrestling, etc., that REALLY started kicking my ass in gear.

I dressed nice still, but it took my clothes to a whole new level. The confidence oozed out when talking to girls because all of these new experiences and chances I was taking in life made me realize that I'm FREE to do whatever I want, that I'm not trapped into this "average" matrix mentality that prevents so many guys from actually pimping.

So what I'm saying is, yes, it's important to follow little tips about dressing, keeping your room clean, etc, etc, but all don't mean SH*T unless you start being totally ballsy with your life, and you start taking some chances.

Once you start taking big risks, a new dimension of your persona begins to open up. You're ballsy, and chicks dig that. You don't even TRY to get the numbers anymore. You just do it.

Point is, you can't go to some sh*tty ass job you hate everyday, be dreaming of doing things you have passion for but are too scared to take the chances to do, but TRY to be confident and put on a DJ act, and expect to succeed.

It doesn't work because it's just a cover.

Cardinal Rule: You can't be a pimp without doing pimp things.

I see a lot of people on here complaining about their sh*tty success rate despite

1. dressing nice
2. "acting" confident...what does that even mean?!?
3. having a clean pad and cool possessions

Many say the answer is just to make more approaches, that it's simply a "numbers" game. I disagree.

If something isn't working, FIX IT. If you're truly successful, your success rate shouldn't be 25%...it should be more like 80 or 90 percent.

My answer to these guys is to start making their life UNIQUE and DIFFERENT.

 

[wayword]

It wasn't until I got a motorcycle, started my own business, started boxing and wrestling, etc., that REALLY started kicking my ass in gear.

I dressed nice still, but it took my clothes to a whole new level. The confidence oozed out when talking to girls because all of these new experiences and chances I was taking in life made me realize that I'm FREE to do whatever I want, that I'm not trapped into this "average" matrix mentality that prevents so many guys from actually pimping.

I agree that confidence is just a symptom of what girls really find attractive - personal power. And attaining the REAL thing beats FAKING it anyday!

You have to become a free-standing man OUTSIDE of the M@trix, in order to get to that upper level, I think. Of course, that is like weaning yourself off your mama's teat. NOT easy...and each man may have to take a different path.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

I agree that confidence is just a symptom of what girls really find attractive - personal power.

You have to become a free-standing man OUTSIDE of the M@trix, in order to get to that upper level, I think. Of course, that is like weaning yourself off your mama's teat. NOT easy...and each man may have to take a different path.

It differs for everyone. But deep down, every person knows what he WANTS to do.

 

[Ace of Flames]

The entire point of all the tips and boot camps and everything else, is getting you out of your comfort zone. You have to go out there and do things you'd never do normally. That's basically what you did between steps 2 and 3. You went out and did things you'd never done before. You left your comfort zone.

So I'd have to say, the tips ARE great, and on a very deep level. But the thing is, you have to take them to heart. If you think of them as "techniques", then that's all they'll be.