She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You know the routine. Whichever outcome is more likely to be the most detrimental (short or long term) to the host population. At this point does it really matter?Jaylan said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The majority of Americans support equal marriage rights for all Americans. Thats hardly a fringe. Do your research.Peña said:
Why does it bother you if people are allowed to define marriage any way they want to in their own personal relationships? Why should the government be allowed to deny people the ability to freely define their private life?speed dawg said:
It's not defining their private life when they are asking for state benefits, privileges and protections traditionally married couples receive. Neither is forcing wedding service providers to serve gay weddings their private life.Jaylan said:
So why not allow for polygamy, incest etc? Everyone already has equal rights. Any straight, gay male or female can marry the opposite sex.
First off religion did create marriage and pre-dates history let alone the US government. But it's not even about religion. You can define marriage how ever you want in a private ceremony, but you are asking the state to license it and forcing other private individual to accept your definition of marriage.
BS gays will next demand any church that hosts traditional marriages to host their gay wedding. Besides, gays have already infringed on Christian wedding service providers. It's not about what homosexuals call their union, it's about what the state calls it and forcing others to fully accept it.
That would be the best case scenario one could expect, but I think it will be 5-4 for gay marriage based on not allowing same-sex marriage is discrimination based on sex.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Jaylan said:
It's like arguing with a woman. When in doubt, shame. Well, no, because marriage IS a religious institution, always has been. So if gays want equal rights, so be it. But it isn't a marriage. The government is making a mistake in recognize marriage in any form, if they truly want to separate church and state.Jaylan said:
Yes they will. Yes they absolutely will. It's next on the agenda. At minimum, they will yank their tax exempt status.Jaylan said:
When you can't get people to agree, SHAME some more!Jaylan said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do yours. Only 2% difference. The country is split. Gays are smaller in numbers being fringe telling the majority what it should be.Jaylan said:
Why should a fringe group snap their fingers forcing us to accept a sham marriage as normal? Gays decide they want to be married so we all have to give them what they want. Selfish people trying to steal marriage benefits and wanting fake families saying being different is normal. Personally they are free in their private lives to live freely. Does not mean they should have a right to be married making a mockery of it.Jaylan said:
I was just going to say that. It should be that way since they turned marriage upside down. The fringe want gays to have legal marriage. Why can't a small group have more than one wife? Gay supporters say why should the government be allowed to deny people the ability to freely define their private life? Shouldn't that apply to me wanting another wife if I want?Bible_Belt said:
Do your research. Gay marriage was voted down each time it came on the ballot over 20 years ago. They cried foul each time trying to get it reinstated until they forced the courts to vote on it. The issue should be dead years ago. Government has the authority to define laws. The fringe don't like it so they forced it to be changed.Jaylan said:
I want to marry my elderly mother (so I can receive her social security and survivor benefits). Why can't I marry a relative not even the same sex? That's what I want to know. I want a lesbian to make the mother marriage cake tooBible_Belt said:
.That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why stop with your mother? Marry your dad, uncles and nieces too. Who's to say marriage has to be between two individuals? Speaking of which, why does it have to be an individual? Why can't you marry a corporation? That would be great for income splitting purposes.Stagger Lee said:I want to marry my elderly mother (so I can receive her social security and survivor benefits). Why can't I marry a relative not even the same sex? That's what I want to know. I want a lesbian to make the mother marriage cake too
I know right, but but but polygamy bad, corporation bad, relative bad..only gay good uh cause pro-gays say so!Bokanovsky said:
