Right now my social game has turned to dust. I'm taking hits from all sides in friendships and casual lays.
I think part of it maybe because I have concentrated on making money/business these last few months. And that when I focus on that I go on autopilot mainly to deal with business problems or stress. I revert to more of a let it slide nice persona that people start taking small grabs and it gradually gets larger and larger. People start to respect you less if you are nice. Basically I faze out for months on the meaningless social bs while in the wrong frame. The fact that when I wake out of slumber I call people on their $hit and blow up the situation as they got use to taking advantage of me being nice.
Secondly I had a failed lay attempt I thought was in the bag.
I know this chick was into me prior to the attempt. I spent the evening with her we got on well. I escalated to the point where she was showing all the signs of falling over with legs opening, but when it came to the close she shut me down.
A couple of points, she was an exes friend and may have another potential love interest.
I think it may have made me question my ability to read the signs since that moment and compounded the problem with my game being out of whack. I have taken hundreds of rejections without batting an eyelid, it was more that I misread the signs I thought were so obvious. Now I question if I'm reading signs of interest right from other women or if it's wishful thinking on my part because I have been out of the loop for a bit. I'm locking up and won't approach, its like hitting a wall and I just stop dead.
The other thing is I switched to the 33yo plus women. The fact I am nearing 40 myself is constantly on my mind. And also if it means I need to rebuild my game around a different model.
Basically I need tips and advice on social and gaming in my 40s.
I think part of it maybe because I have concentrated on making money/business these last few months. And that when I focus on that I go on autopilot mainly to deal with business problems or stress. I revert to more of a let it slide nice persona that people start taking small grabs and it gradually gets larger and larger. People start to respect you less if you are nice. Basically I faze out for months on the meaningless social bs while in the wrong frame. The fact that when I wake out of slumber I call people on their $hit and blow up the situation as they got use to taking advantage of me being nice.
Secondly I had a failed lay attempt I thought was in the bag.
I know this chick was into me prior to the attempt. I spent the evening with her we got on well. I escalated to the point where she was showing all the signs of falling over with legs opening, but when it came to the close she shut me down.
A couple of points, she was an exes friend and may have another potential love interest.
I think it may have made me question my ability to read the signs since that moment and compounded the problem with my game being out of whack. I have taken hundreds of rejections without batting an eyelid, it was more that I misread the signs I thought were so obvious. Now I question if I'm reading signs of interest right from other women or if it's wishful thinking on my part because I have been out of the loop for a bit. I'm locking up and won't approach, its like hitting a wall and I just stop dead.
The other thing is I switched to the 33yo plus women. The fact I am nearing 40 myself is constantly on my mind. And also if it means I need to rebuild my game around a different model.
Basically I need tips and advice on social and gaming in my 40s.
