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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

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Met this girl at 4pm for a date. We ended up bouncing all over town getting drinks. Few sloppy makeouts, holding hands. She dropped me off at 10pm Sunday.

When should I contact her? Tonight (Tuesday?) Thanks
 

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CaConfused said:
Met this girl at 4pm for a date. We ended up bouncing all over town getting drinks. Few sloppy makeouts, holding hands. She dropped me off at 10pm Sunday.

When should I contact her? Tonight (Tuesday?) Thanks
Let her call you.
 

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CaConfused said:
Well, that's a curveball. Why?

Everyone else agree?
think about it this way, if you had a date with another girl tonight, of better yet, if you had another girl calling you regularly wanting to hang out or bang, would you even sweat it when to call this one?

that is exactly the situation she is in, (if she's even moderately slim and attractive)
 

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Let her call you.

Generally good advice post date^

Its been a few days though and you havent heard from her? No big deal...text her tomorrow about something funny that happened between you two when you were out. Short and concise. Exchange no more than a few texts and ask her out again. Only ask them out about once a week, and if she declines and doesnt counter offer then dont text her again, until she hits you up. Rinse, wash, and repeat.
 

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TheException said:
Let her call you.

Generally good advice post date^

Its been a few days though and you havent heard from her? No big deal...text her tomorrow about something funny that happened between you two when you were out. Short and concise. Exchange no more than a few texts and ask her out again. Only ask them out about once a week, and if she declines and doesnt counter offer then dont text her again, until she hits you up. Rinse, wash, and repeat.

Yep, haven't heard from her. I'll hit her up tomorrow. Though tonight is tempting.
 

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CaConfused said:
Yep, haven't heard from her. I'll hit her up tomorrow. Though tonight is tempting.
There are no rules.
If you're free tonight then hit her up tonight. She'll probably be busy but the the ball is sat in her side of the court. Do it whenever you feel (within reason).
 

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The fact the OP called the concept of waiting for her call "a curveball" tells me he is a novice. Therefore he probably wore out his welcome by having the date last 6 hours. Why were the makeouts sloppy? Did she take his hand or vice versa? Also, why was she driving? And why were they meeting at 4PM?

If he was initiating everything she probably left tracks after she dropped him off. The only way to know is to wait for her text.
 

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bigneil said:
The fact the OP called the concept of waiting for her call "a curveball" tells me he is a novice. Therefore he probably wore out his welcome by having the date last 6 hours. Why were the makeouts sloppy? Did she take his hand or vice versa? Also, why was she driving? And why were they meeting at 4PM?

If he was initiating everything she probably left tracks after she dropped him off. The only way to know is to wait for her text.
We met at a wine bar in the city.

I dont remember on the hand. I think she took mine

She drove because I was able to walk to the wine bar

We met at 4pm. I dunno. As a first date. I didn't really care.

We just kept having fun and bouncing from bar to bar.

Waiting for her call might mean I'm a novice. Or it might also mean I like taking the lead.
 

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Purefilth said:
There are no rules.
If you're free tonight then hit her up tonight. She'll probably be busy but the the ball is sat in her side of the court. Do it whenever you feel (within reason).
When I contact her, it would be to set up another date, probably on Saturday.

Im busy until then.

I was thinking of sending this text tonight to open the conversation:

"I think I'm finally over my hangover. You?"

Thoughts?
 
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If she's interested in you, she'll reply regardless of what you text (as long as it's not retarded). If she doesn't reply or takes a couple of days to respond, cut your losses and move on. IMO, you can text tonight or tomorrow.
 

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Sandow said:
If she's interested in you, she'll reply regardless of what you text (as long as it's not retarded). If she doesn't reply or takes a couple of days to respond, cut your losses and move on. IMO, you can text tonight or tomorrow.

I gave her a call at 7:45. no answer. left a short VM. Decided to mix it up. If she's interested, she'll call back.
 
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