"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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paraguayandj

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I got a problem with a sunshine girl. Even thougt she will go out with me hug me and everything she won't let me get to the next level. She is a hb 8.5 and I want to get laid with her but no matter how well I play my game she won't let it go. So my question is how do you lead with sunshine girls. It's there any way to brake the ice and go to the next level. If somebody can give me a tip I'll appretiate it:D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eat her out... for a long time. Chances are, she'll be so turned on by you, she may want to ****. If women get the impression that you're in it for them and not yourself, its like a 1 way ticket to goodness.
 

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dude i think by "the next level" he means kissing this girl, so that advice won't work

I'd say if you're really into her do something strange...don't talk to her/call her/ask her out on a date for at least a week. i'm dead serious. if she doesn't initiate a convo with you, she's not interested, simple as that, can't do **** about it. if she does, however, make her earn your time, don't just let her vent on you.
 

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yeah, i got the same problem. but i think i already played my cards pretty badly. i initated convo (dont do that) but when she comes up to you, and wants to talk, just leave, and if she comes up to you and DOESNT want to talk, just basically get your attention, then smile and just leave.
 

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Deep down what these girls usually want is attention, and they can usually get that by giving guys false signals of interest, touching, flirting, etc. They want to know that they have power over you, so their goal is not to get with you but to make you chase them.

In this case your most powerful action is to walk away. Don't initiate, don't fall for her bull****. Be polite but distant and distracted if she initiates, and end the interaction quickly. Show that you are unfazed by her, that she has failed to seduce you. This has a couple benefits; if nothing ends up happening, at least you get yourself away from a person who would have an otherwise destructive effect on your ego. However, there's also a chance that your apparent rejection of her will make her feel insufficient and make her try to chase you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ya. i have the same problem wit a snushine girl i tryin to pick up... i have no idea how they work... totally clueles... anyone here got a link on how i should approach this issue?
 

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Dont give girls what they want, then they come after you. The more you pull away, the more they push, the more they are attracted.
 

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Sunshine girls become sunshine girls because they have more than enough guys who kiss their asses... and your being one of them right now... get to know her and pull out and start dating other chicks... soon enough she'll realize that you're attractive because you've become something she can't have... and people, "WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE."

normally if you figure sunshine girls out, its not hard to date them at all, like my ex who was a sunshine girl, dated me for about 6 months, but the bad part is you get tired of them whining all the time so hey, I made the smart move to break up with her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What the ****'s a sunshine girl?
Basically an attention wh0re. Flirts with everyone and gives you constant buying signals, but isn't really interested and is leading you on because she likes the attention you give her.
 

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dont give her too much attention. :rolleyes:
 

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what exactly is a "sunshine girl"
Sunshine girls become sunshine girls because they have more than enough guys who kiss their asses... and your being one of them right now... get to know her and pull out and start dating other chicks... soon enough she'll realize that you're attractive because you've become something she can't have... and people, "WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE."
What the ****'s a sunshine girl?
Basically an attention wh0re. Flirts with everyone and gives you constant buying signals, but isn't really interested and is leading you on because she likes the attention you give her.
Why not try READING????:rolleyes:
 

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well that helped in some way.
 
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