I've been on and off sosuave for a while now and I've made a couple of journals that I did not follow throug with because I wasn't really dedicated to improving myself. However that is about to change because I've had a very huge wakeup call and I will do everything in my power to answer that call. To me this summer might be the greatest summer of my life because I plan on absolutely dedicating. Every moment of my time improving myself
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SUMMERTIME IMPROVEMENT my journal
- Thread starter udokaibeh
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mr.SomeoneElse
Don Juan
You should announce your goals from the very beginning to us.
So we know what you're trying to achieve and announcing your goals out loud, in my personal experience makes you more ambitious on completing them because you wont want to look like a failure.
So you should write out your goals and if you don't follow through with this journal in a months time, showing progress, i'll personally message you lol.
So we know what you're trying to achieve and announcing your goals out loud, in my personal experience makes you more ambitious on completing them because you wont want to look like a failure.
So you should write out your goals and if you don't follow through with this journal in a months time, showing progress, i'll personally message you lol.
You need to break down your goals even more. How will you measure success? What is the goal your are actually attempting to achieve?udokaibeh said:My goals
1) hit the gym at least 3 times aweek
2) beat my AA by doing all the bootcamps
3) I'm told I always look angry even when I'm not and I need to change it
4) I need to become more relaxed
For example, your 1st goal is to go to the gym 3x a week. That is not a goal, that is a way to achieve a goal. Your goal should be to lose 15 lbs by Dec 2012 or something that you can work towards and you can motivate yourself to continue. Going to the gym 3x a week for the sake of going to the gym 3x a week will get boring quickly.
The same applies for your other goals as well. How are you going to become less angry? Stress course? Looking up anger management online and taking notes? Etc. If you do not lay out a plan, it is 10x easier to give up.
Anyways, congrats on starting the journal, looking forward to seeing some posts
Lol well I'm already pretty fit and I want to stay that way that's why I said gym 3x a week (I don't want to bulk up or lose weight )and ppl say I look angry I'm not actually angry but I guess the way to solve this would be t spend at least 30 min each day just smiling
The relaxing problem is the most difficult because I have a pretty stressful life to achieve this goal I need to drop every task that isn't a priority and pend more time doing things that calms me down
The relaxing problem is the most difficult because I have a pretty stressful life to achieve this goal I need to drop every task that isn't a priority and pend more time doing things that calms me down
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
07/15/12
Nothing much to report on today spent the day playing basketball finally I can sense myself improving and I'm feeling pretty good about myself (might help with my confidence) tomorrow I plan on going out to talk to girls maybe the beach or the mall. I think ill go by myself because I have no DJ friends so the might hurt my cause.
Overal rating for the day: sucess
Nothing much to report on today spent the day playing basketball finally I can sense myself improving and I'm feeling pretty good about myself (might help with my confidence) tomorrow I plan on going out to talk to girls maybe the beach or the mall. I think ill go by myself because I have no DJ friends so the might hurt my cause.
Overal rating for the day: sucess
Theres this girl that i went to school who moved to another state. She came back for vacation. Me and her had been txting and chilled for a while even got a kiss. Now shes cold and unresponsive to my texts which means she lost interest how do i fix this