Summer Journal-One aproach already

[zidane]

Hey guys, i have decided to do a Journal for the summer, although i am done with my summer classes today.For the next two months i will be hitting the gym(work out and hit on the girls there) and anywhere i go.

Background.
I am originally from Kenya(africa) and go to school in a small town(marshall) in MN. The town is about 18,000 people and the college school has a population of 3800. I am 5-10 or 11 and weigh 155 pounds.I have two jobs and work almost five days every week.I have been in the US for the past three years.

I have been in the US for the past three years and have cold approached most girls than probably any guy has ever done in this town but the problem is that i think i am doing something that is seriously wrong because i have never gotten laid. I have approached more that 100 girls had more that 40 phone numbers and went on about four different dates that didt go anywhere. I have made out with probably 2 girls and that did not go anywhere too.
I live in a town where there are very few african american women and the only option that i have is to hit on white girls. I dont really mind the race that i date as long as they are cute and are reasonable. Actually today i just got a number from this african american chick(HB 7) and i will update you what that will turn out to be as time goes by.

I had gotten a number from a white girl(HB 8.5) on Tuesday but i texted her on thursday and it did not turn out to be good.I will explain how i got the number and how the texting went about. I hope that u guys will critique me and as time goes by i will get better. I have had so many phone numbers in the past two years that dont lead to nothing and the proces has always been a vicious circle to me. This has been really discouraging to me and sometimes i think that i should stop interacting,hitting on girls and just do my own things.

I have alot of things going for me, I am a Chemistry major and have a passion for chemicals. I would like to be a pharmacist or an analytical chemist in the near future. I love Science:Chem and physics are my favorites and also love math. I have two jobs, pay for my own school fees, have my own nice car(Honda-Accord) and love to play basketball and work out. I have so many things going except women, love every other aspect of my life. I came to the Us when i was really small( 5-9, 125 lbs) and after working out for six months and eating good went up to 155. I have been told that i am handsome, gorgous and goodlooking but not getting any hits has downed my self worth and sometimes make me feel bad about myself.

I dont know if i am asking the numbers without developing enough rapport or is it that asking random girls numbers is a small town is a taboo. Most of the girls that i talk to even if it is in 2 mins and i ask the # will most likely give it to me. Unless they have a bf or somethin but havent had many that flat out refused. I usually tell ma friends that getting numbers is easy but after that it become a brick wall to penetrate. I dont know if it is being black that is the problem or the fact that i am African. I dont think that is the issue though because most black(african american) guys here seem to get alot of ass but they are footballers so they have alot of muscle and have plenty of social proof. I am african but speak English very well and fluenltly and infact i just got done with my speech class yesterday and got an A and the professor told me i was good. When i speak, i dont get the what or what did u say that shows that people are not getting what u are saying.

MY APPROACHES.
Most of my approaches involve small talk and then go in for the #. If i am taking a class with the chick, i dont have to get the # right away, so i will try to build rapport over time and then ask for the #. If i am not taking a class with the chick, i will just do a small talk and then go in for the kill. I will just walk by them, ask them about what class is coming up or for the past three weeks have been asking them if they are taking summer classes. From there i go towhat is there major and elaborate, where they come from, what they do for fun and then ask them " Can i have ur # we can talk some other time" or " can i have ur # we can hang out some time" and will work.

HB 8.5
I did not take a class with her but our classes were in the same building, and started at the same time. So One day i was walking behind her(6 feet) toward the door. She opened the door and then waited for me and smiled, the convo then started.
Me: so are u taking summer classes
Her: Yes, i am
Me: Do u go to school here
Her: No, i go to school in the cities but i am just taking summer classes here in this town.
At this time we came to where her class was and she told me TTYL
Two day later, while i was shoping for groceries it turns out she works there. i went to that check out but it was full so another girl next to her checked me out.
About three day later, while i was going to class and convo started
Me: Hey, I saw you the other day at .......
Her: Yeah, I work there
Meo you like it
Her: Yeah, i like it , i mean it is nice
Me: That is cool.
We were approaching her class
Me: By the way what is your name
Her;It is .....
Me: I am .....,Nice to meet your. Then she went to her class
About two days later as i was walking out of the bld and she was coming in
me: Hey, HB
Her;Hey
Me: Can i have your # and we can talk some other time
Her: Yeah, sure
Me: ( tool out the phone and punched the #) TTYL
After two days

TEXT.
Me: Hey HB its Me.Wassup cutie?
Her: I am sorry buy who is this?( big red red flag)
Me. The guy from college
Herh
me:so wassup
Her:I am hanging out with friends
me; Ok, that cool, how was ur day, did anythin exciting?
After this she never replied may txt and thatwas a huge red flag. She never even remembered me and never even thought of asking herself whom she had given her #. I was thinking of deleting the # but thought i should give it one more try.
I dont know what is wrong or what i am doing that is killing me, not enough rapport? not enough comfortability ?( but txt is not intrusive). Am have havin boring convos? or The million dollar question- approaching is a taboo unless it is someone from a clique? That is one f**ked up thinh about the US, cliques that are hard to get in, especially in small town.
Will post about about the african american chick later, i gotta go to work
Critiques welcomed

 

[zidane]

Hey guys

Come guys, atleast say something.

 

[greenlake]

Hey man, it's nice seeing more journal are created. Seem like you're new to this country. But don't be sad, this place is wonderful. Don't let your limiting belief affect you. I see a lot of hot girls with black guys. I used to think that girls don't dig Asian guys. I'm Asian and those kind of belief doesn't stop me at all.

"I have been told that i am handsome, gorgous and goodlooking but not getting any hits has downed my self worth and sometimes make me feel bad about myself."

Okay, first of all. There are two paths you can choose to go here. One: Since you know you're good looking. Just keep reminds yourself that you're good looking and other stuff you're proud of yourself aka "positive thinking". That will keep you happy. Or you can choose the second path by: not caring what other people think. Flattery or insult, doesn't matter to you aka "being realistic. I'm currently using the second path because opinion of others will not affect my mood. Red pill or Green pill...? :crackup:

Okay, about the approach. I have to point out a few things.
1) The conversation was boring. I bet you're not interested in what you were saying. The conversation should be about You and Her.
2) Be more direct with her. The reason she didn't remember you was because you didn't let her know that you're interested. She probably think you're just some guy who want to make friends. By then, if she chooses to go further with you then good and if she don't then it's also good. Because you're not wasting time with a girl that's not interested. You can use those spare time to jerk off. hahah j/k :moon:

That's all I can think of buddy. By far, you're doing a good job for going that far. Good luck to you on your journey. :cheer:

 

[speakeasy]

If you've approached that many girls with no luck and you are decent looking, it's hard to believe you wouldn't have a better batting average. My guess is that it's just going to be much tougher as a black dude in a small white town in middle America. Race is still a big deal in dating even though people don't like to be overt about it. If you went to a black majority college you'd probably have a girlfriend right now or at least be getting some steady action.