"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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forgot a name on that list :/

more importantly, for those that don't have it, how soon will the requried readings be up? considering it starts soon those that don't already have it would benefit form reading as early as possible to prepare
afcwolf, there's a link with a PDF with all the readings and exercises posted on this thread.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'd like to do this, is it to late to sign up?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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roman81 said:
I'd like to do this, is it to late to sign up?
Xenon said:
I would like to join also. Is it to late?
It's not too late, yet. I'll add you to the list.
 

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Recruits, here's our team, take a good look around, because half of you won't be make it to week 2 :trouble: Those that do will have an amazing summer.

1. Impact
2. Mr_Stinky
3. bcolon
4. Sweet James Jones
5. youngmack
6. Eternal_water
7. 17Soft
8. Social_Leper
9. wait_out
10. Sofomore
11. oscarxp25
12. incognito42
13. Fly By Night
14. Robyn923b
15. Shivastorm_88
16. afcwolf
17. roman81
18. Xenon

Bro I'd appreciate it if you could post all the challenges/tasks in this thred so we don't have to search through the other thread for challenges/tasks.

Thanks
 

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So I've kind of surpasses the exercises lol. I' did the eye contact thing a couple of times to a couple of strangers. It went well.... Later on in the day as i was coming home from school..i seen this hottie across the street.

I was SUPER hesitant and scared to go talk to her so i said f*ck it i wont. But something in me said "yo dude go do it" so i grabbed my balls and i ACTUALLY approached her, made eye contact, and had a convo with her but i didn't ask for her number because i was too scared lol.

I'm mad at myself but also super proud. THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE THAT I APPROACHED A GIRL... I need to make much more progess though so i wont be scared to number close again..But i shall continue to make eye contact and saying hi to strangers tomorrow...
 

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Bro I'd appreciate it if you could post all the challenges/tasks in this thred so we don't have to search through the other thread for challenges/tasks.

Thanks
roman81, I did, a few posts above.
 

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So I've kind of surpasses the exercises lol. I' did the eye contact thing a couple of times to a couple of strangers. It went well.... Later on in the day as i was coming home from school..i seen this hottie across the street.

I was SUPER hesitant and scared to go talk to her so i said f*ck it i wont. But something in me said "yo dude go do it" so i grabbed my balls and i ACTUALLY approached her, made eye contact, and had a convo with her but i didn't ask for her number because i was too scared lol.

I'm mad at myself but also super proud. THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE THAT I APPROACHED A GIRL... I need to make much more progess though so i wont be scared to number close again..But i shall continue to make eye contact and saying hi to strangers tomorrow...
Nice, wasn't that hard, was it? :cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First update from the field :) I can make eye contact with most people, that's not an issue, I actually do it all the time. Today was an exciting day - I can already feel a change in my attitude as now I'm not into the "go get the girl" mode, but more free from outcome, which gives me a cool attitude. I said hi to a total of 7 people, 6 of which were girls and one guy. This guy was actually cool - we started chatting at the entrance of a club and he was alone as well there and we ended up hitting on some girls together. A few girls ignored me, a few I talked to.

I have a FB (MILF) that I sometimes see, and she called me tonight after work and came over for some action. Honestly, I did not want to go out afterwards, but I'm glad I pushed myself, even if it was already midnight. Overall, good night. Now it's time to get some sleep and prepare for tomorrow.

1 hr eye contact and 7 hi's - done
1 hr eye contact and 43 hi's to go

How are you guys doing?
 

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Made eye contact and a "hi" with 10 people today. 4 of those people were women that I was even able to strike up conversations with. I didn't go for number closes on 3 of them and the one that I did ended up telling me she had a bf. (All of them were giving me good IOI's too) But oh well, I'll just have to force myself to number close next time I get a convo going.
 

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Fly By Night said:
Made eye contact and a "hi" with 10 people today. 4 of those people were women that I was even able to strike up conversations with. I didn't go for number closes on 3 of them and the one that I did ended up telling me she had a bf. (All of them were giving me good IOI's too) But oh well, I'll just have to force myself to number close next time I get a convo going.
Well done, FBN. There's nothing to lose, next time number close and you might even f-close after that. Week 6 or 7 we're going for f-closes, you might as well start now ;)
 

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This is the part where i am fine

I am good at making eye contact with people. I run into 10-15 women at my job at day and have no problem saying hello with a smile. I even start a mini conversation. I am not on shaky ground yet. To my fellow DJ's... welcome and good luck. I am here to improve on skills. I am much better than I used to be. This stuff works...you need to step out of your comfort zone and just say hello while looking at the women/girl. You can do it!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm joining in late. I have until midnight on June 8 so I can easily get through week 1 at my experience level (Beginner-intermediate). Nothing a day at the boardwalk at the beach can't supply me. Hell I almost got laid at the beach because drunk girls are on the prowl for sexy dudes like me haha. And Tony Robbins says that you need to constantly go over the fundamentals, plus I feel that I need to go over the fundamentals as well.

Week 1 will be a challenge for me because I'm in Japan, and people DO NOT make eye contact with you, and are generally shy in nature. I'll be back in the states in a few days, so I'll be able to make up for it fairly quickly.

And to guys who are going through this for the first time: you're gonna have a rough time doing the first few approaches. Hurry up and make your 1000 rookie mistakes so you can go on to making your 1000 intermediate mistakes :)
 

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I'm joining in late. I have until midnight on June 8 so I can easily get through week 1 at my experience level (Beginner-intermediate). Nothing a day at the boardwalk at the beach can't supply me. Hell I almost got laid at the beach because drunk girls are on the prowl for sexy dudes like me haha. And Tony Robbins says that you need to constantly go over the fundamentals, plus I feel that I need to go over the fundamentals as well.

Week 1 will be a challenge for me because I'm in Japan, and people DO NOT make eye contact with you, and are generally shy in nature. I'll be back in the states in a few days, so I'll be able to make up for it fairly quickly.

And to guys who are going through this for the first time: you're gonna have a rough time doing the first few approaches. Hurry up and make your 1000 rookie mistakes so you can go on to making your 1000 intermediate mistakes :)
Vice, you're welcome to join, but make sure you complete the exercises and report till midnight June 7th. We'll keep posting weeks 2,3,4 and so on on this thread, and we don't want to see overlapping posts from different weeks.
 

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Sorry I've been extremely busy lately. I'm getting ready to move into a new house soon. So my time will be kinda limited. That's why I haven't logged in these past few days. But I am still up for this challenge and Impact I'm reading the Bootcamp challenge post you posted on this page right now. I will update.

I need to overcome this social anxiety first though. I hope doing this challenge helps me out. So here goes!
 

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Week 1

went on jog, said hi to two separate people while maintaning eye contact (2)

went to park on said jog and saw a guy playing with his kid there, said sup and struck up a convo w/him asking him bout what hes diong here his daughter etc. turns out he recently got divorced, 28 years old with a kid and fresh out of military and lost his hearing, so he's getting benefits etc.

saw two girls walking on my jogging route struck up a convo with them.

4 hi's w/eye contact with convos out of two of those hi's.

starting summer school monday so expect that number to go up quick.

also i may be meeting up with someone soon, so i might skip to the "First date" section to get a few tips and pointers.....
 

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Yesterday I managed to get 11 hi's/appr, only 2 today though. Will have to push myself harder for the next 4 days. I met a really good looking polish girl at the train station, I smiled at her and she asked me where she could find a cash machine. I told her I'd show her, it wasn't that close, but she said she has to go back to her friends. Anyway, the good thing about these exercises is that they force you to smile - this is very powerful. A few people looked at me very strangely because I was smiling (sometimes forced), but it's worth it.

Still it feels very strange to just say hi to people here in Europe, especially in a big city. I just have to push myself to get it out and forget it.

21 hi's and 2 hours of eye contact - done
29 hi's to go
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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