"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Al Moh.

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Thought I'll throw this out here, my personal summery of things to keep in mind:



What to do

EC
- no starring
- flirt with eyes

Smile
- Occasional sunbursts to warm her heart
- normally chilled out face

Convo
- connection + comfort building
- 20/80 - 30/70
- deep and powerful voice
- humor + teasing |
- compliments | -> emotional rollercoaster
- exciting stories |

Kino
- subtle touch = comfort building
- hold hands = flirt + connection
- escalation -> sexual touch + kiss



Mindset

Sexual
- linger
- lead
- strength + domination
- chilled out

Love
- passion
- "Ooh La La!"
- focus on fun + experimentation
- moral = create a good time for BOTH of you

Faith
- Confidence
- "I am the Great Catch"
- bounce back



It's just a small summary with notes so if something isn't clear, feel free to ask.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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for eye contact you say no starring but flirt with the eyes? what is the difference? How do you know when youre starring and when youre flirting with the eyes?
 

Al Moh.

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These are seperate points (obviously you can't stare while you flirt with the eyes).

New Don Juans should train to hold eye contact. But it's still supposed to be light, confident and friendly, which is not staring.

People have to learn control over there own feeling, then 90% of the questions in this forum would answer themselves. When you are in a good mood, and go in desireless, you just can't stare. It's not natural then.

Flirting with the eyes is the next step, you just have to try and learn after you have the basic EC down.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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