"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Suicide..

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Suicide....the Stoics say that you should consider it and leave it as an option....like a door in the far corner of your mind...

When things get really bad.....consider it....the door...it's there.....it's an option.....

the "problem" doesn't seem so important or bad now.....

I guess I won't choose the door.....what was the "problem" again.? lets find a solution.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You alright pal?
 
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You alright pal?
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Me? Yes perfectly fine, thank you.

I'm talking about a mindset. It's a stoic "trick" if you will....

Everything is relative......if one leaves the option of suicide there, your "problem" in life seems so small in comparison.....


....why not go back to confronting the so called "problem" with your new mindset...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm a big fan of stoicism, but I've never read anything like that from them. It's mostly about being unattached to anything. Who said that? Epicurus?

Either way, it's true.
 
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TyTe`EyEz said:
I'm a big fan of stoicism, but I've never read anything like that from them. It's mostly about being unattached to anything. Who said that? Epicurus?

Either way, it's true.
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Live stoic podcast speaking about depression........
 
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Live stoic podcast speaking about depression........
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Acceptance of death made me think of Epicurus.

One of my favorite stoic quotes:

All you need are these: certainty of judgment in the present moment; action for the common good in the present moment; and an attitude of gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way.

—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS
 
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TyTe`EyEz said:
Acceptance of death made me think of Epicurus.

One of my favorite stoic quotes:

All you need are these: certainty of judgment in the present moment; action for the common good in the present moment; and an attitude of gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way.

—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS
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You know, your response doesn't need me to say anything or add anything to ruin it. It's perfect as it is....

But forgive me, I will....

The quote is so fitting......tonight I spoke with somebody about a previous "conflict" that I had.....(a person who was an energy source of financial gain..........let's just say I "temporarily lost" something and I "reacted" in anger.....let's just say that I thought that the "loss" was going to be substantial and have a long term effect.....

....,this person has, some time later created an opportunity for me that has more than (4 times) made up for the "previous loss"....

....however, I just accepted it and didn't acknowledge it...I've gained...but...

I realised I was quick to lash out.....but I've been slow to show my hand in appreciation and gratitude.....
 
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I view it as being mentally weak.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TyTe`EyEz said:
@Reykhel Check out The Daily Stoic. There's a daily quote with a follow up from the author (who is Robert Greene's protege). I'm finishing it up this month. Great book.
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Thanks my man.....but I don't trust that fvck

Look, we subscribed but then we found out the man is a marketing salesman snake..,....he don't have anything to do with the quote you just put up........

....it saddens me that stoicism is being sold as a modern day life hack by this charlatan
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks my man.....but I don't trust that fvck

Look, we subscribed but then we found out the man is a marketing salesman snake..,....he don't have anything to do with the quote you just put up........

....it saddens me that stoicism is being sold as a modern day life hack by this charlatan
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He's bringing quotes, like the one I just put up, to the masses. 366 of them, to be exact.
 
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The quote for today is fvcking perfect for this thread.

“Let us prepare our minds as if we’d come to the very end of life. Let us postpone nothing. Let us balance life’s books each day. . . . The one who puts the finishing touches on their life each day is never short of time.” —SENECA, MORAL LETTERS, 101.7b–8a
 
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marmel75 said:
I view it as being mentally weak.
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This guy is mentally weak being "married" and trolling a forum and trolling men in general .........should married troll biatchs be allowed on the forums?
 
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