"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Suggestion to those beginning weightlifting

benjiprice

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I'm a little surprised at some of the questions that are being asked concerning weight-lifting in this forum, because they really show an absolute lack of effort put into researching the area. I'm sure most of those people have spent a ton of time researching information on dating, so I'm a little confused as to why they don't replicate that behavior regarding fitness.

There are a ton of resources online on excercises and diet (absolutely essential).

EDIT: First consult the stickies in the H&F forum, which have a ton of information written up by people with years of lifting experience. If you want any more information you can consult bodybuilding.com (especially their forums) and t-nation.com.

Those resources are for people at all levels, not just professional bodybuilders. So I really suggest that people put some more effort into it. If you don't you'll quit because you're not going to see the gains you expect, and then you'll probably blame it on genetics.

I'm not saying you shouldn't ask questions, but even though there are people who do know their **** here, they can't give you a complete view of things, because it's just too much information.

Please put the effort into it, it's for your own good.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bodybuilding.com kinda sucks. Kinda hard to find the basics at t-nation.com

Just read the stickies here, they are pretty friggin good and good enough for people even at their more advanced stages of lifting.
 

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In hell. I'm Satan's lover.
I agree on diet. I used to eat just when I felt hungry and was wondering why I never grew. Once I really got into eating and huge amounts of protein no more did I think of myself as a hard gainer.
 

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benjiprice said:
I'm a little surprised at some of the questions that are being asked concerning weight-lifting in this forum, because they really show an absolute lack of effort put into researching the area. I'm sure most of those people have spent a ton of time researching information on dating, so I'm a little confused as to why they don't replicate that behavior regarding fitness.

There are a ton of resources online on excercises and diet (absolutely essential), such as bodybuilding.com and t-nation.com. Those resources are for people at all levels, not just professional bodybuilders. So I really suggest that people put some more effort into it. If you don't you'll quit because you're not going to see the gains you expect, and then you'll probably blame it on genetics.

I'm not saying you shouldn't ask questions, but even though there are people who do know their **** here, they can't give you a complete view of things, because it's just too much information.

Please put the effort into it, it's for your own good.
¿¡WTF?!

¡Don't fall of that high horse, mate - you'll surely break your neck!
 

benjiprice

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beercan said:
¿¡WTF?!

¡Don't fall of that high horse, mate - you'll surely break your neck!
Haha, you're right. Suggesting people get a better understanding of weight-lifting and nutrition is utterly arrogant of me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think the issue is your assumption that there is not good information to be found here.

There are a number of accomplished lifters on this board and lots of info has been posted. Quiksilver is doing a great job of trying to provide an 'index' of key posts.

There is nothing posted on bbing.com that you can't find on here - especially as regards the basics.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
I think the issue is your assumption that there is not good information to be found here.

There are a number of accomplished lifters on this board and lots of info has been posted. Quiksilver is doing a great job of trying to provide an 'index' of key posts.

There is nothing posted on bbing.com that you can't find on here - especially as regards the basics.
Ok, point accepted. I didn't mean it in that way, and I certainly should have included a reference to the stickies. Post edited accordingly.
 
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