"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The girl i've been interested in suddenly seemed cold and distant for the last two days when i see her in class...
For a while now, we've flirted and stuff and like two days ago we were laughing and having agood time, but today and yesterday she just seemed to not want to talk. Is she just in some bad mood or something? I know that I haven't done anything that would be offensive or anything...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maybe something is on her mind? Death in the family? Who knows?

Keep your cool and give her space. She will come to you eventually.

Proximity, words, etc.

Need more info.
 
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Ah, she's in my Chem class and we sit by each other.
I wasn't really interested in her initially because she was really shy around guys and i didn't feel like bothering, but now i am sort of after her. Obviously, since we sit together, we usually talk every day, but the class is also almost without breaks in terms of taking notes, so when i talk to her, some days it would just be nothing except for about school and chem. Lately i've been trying to talk to her more and kino and crap and the like and i get the feeling that she is interested.
No words exactly come to mind, but she basically just didn't seem like she wanted to talk...i'm guessing hopefully just a bad mood.
 
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I'm going through the exact same thing with a girl right now. The only difference is that I have her in different classes. I wasn't interested in her at first, but now I'm chasing after her. On Tuesday things were going great, but the last two days seemed like she didn't want to talk.

Today I went up to her after class and tried to talk to her but I was basically doing all the talking; she would only reply with a couple words, so I cut it short because it felt uncomfortable. I have her in two classes and at the end of the other class she started talking to me. I don't know what the deal is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If a girl goes cold, and you continue to chase her - the balance of power tips in her favor. Then you are done for.

The reasons don't really matter. Bottom line?

girl going cold = you move on to the next one
 
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It's your job to warm her up. If you're not doing your job, however warm you are, then it's HER problem, not yours.
 
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