"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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saturos

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The girl i've been interested in suddenly seemed cold and distant for the last two days when i see her in class...
For a while now, we've flirted and stuff and like two days ago we were laughing and having agood time, but today and yesterday she just seemed to not want to talk. Is she just in some bad mood or something? I know that I haven't done anything that would be offensive or anything...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Maybe something is on her mind? Death in the family? Who knows?

Keep your cool and give her space. She will come to you eventually.

Proximity, words, etc.

Need more info.
 
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Ah, she's in my Chem class and we sit by each other.
I wasn't really interested in her initially because she was really shy around guys and i didn't feel like bothering, but now i am sort of after her. Obviously, since we sit together, we usually talk every day, but the class is also almost without breaks in terms of taking notes, so when i talk to her, some days it would just be nothing except for about school and chem. Lately i've been trying to talk to her more and kino and crap and the like and i get the feeling that she is interested.
No words exactly come to mind, but she basically just didn't seem like she wanted to talk...i'm guessing hopefully just a bad mood.
 
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I'm going through the exact same thing with a girl right now. The only difference is that I have her in different classes. I wasn't interested in her at first, but now I'm chasing after her. On Tuesday things were going great, but the last two days seemed like she didn't want to talk.

Today I went up to her after class and tried to talk to her but I was basically doing all the talking; she would only reply with a couple words, so I cut it short because it felt uncomfortable. I have her in two classes and at the end of the other class she started talking to me. I don't know what the deal is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If a girl goes cold, and you continue to chase her - the balance of power tips in her favor. Then you are done for.

The reasons don't really matter. Bottom line?

girl going cold = you move on to the next one
 
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It's your job to warm her up. If you're not doing your job, however warm you are, then it's HER problem, not yours.
 
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