This is a long post, so I appreciate it if you can read it and give me feedback on how I handled this situation.
I've been gaming this girl for about 3 months and seeing this girl on a sexual level for about 2 months.
She used to love public displays of affection i.e. holding hands, hugging/kissing in the street, almost every time we met we had sex. I had her to the point where she was initiating meeting up and texting me everyday. If I didn't reply soon enough she'd double or even triple text to get my attention. Unless we was arranging a date I tried to wait a while before texting make myself appear busy, in reality a lot of the time I was too busy to reply immediately.
A few times she has referred to me as her boyfriend in front of acquaintances and introduced me to her best friend as her new BF, she once asked about our relationship status in front of an acquaintance to which I dodged the question and said I'm "friends" which everyone. Although she seemed a bit taken aback by my response we went on to have crazy foreplay that night.
She has told me on numerous times that she is attracted to me, my body and loves spending 1-on-1 time together. She even told me she loved me twice flippantly, which I sort of brushed off and ignored. At this point I was feeling a bit of pressure of her wanting to make our relationship official but I always brushed off commitment conversation because a serious relationship seemed a bit soon.
Fast forward to the last time we met up, everything is going fine, we head back to my house where we have sex twice as I drop her off I notice that her willingness to reciprocate public displays of affection suddenly drops and she tells me that she doesn't like kissing in public although she never stopped me kissing her in public. I found it strange because for the few weeks prior she had no issue with public displays of effection. Anyways the date ends, overall we had fun.
From this point on, she waited almost a week to text me, which is strange considering that she was initiating texting everyday obsessively before. I texted her to see what's up and she apologised and said she has been busy. In my mind I knew it was an excuse because girls are NEVER busy when their interest levels are high for a guy. Her initiating text messages became even less frequent. I was now instigating the text messages to bait her to join me for a date. I spread my text messages across a few days so I didn't appear desperate and needy and she always replied, she still initiated some text messages but not obsessively like in the pasts. She would sidestep meeting up again because she has reconnect with university friends and is partying with them in another city and hence too busy.
The other day, she texts me saying that she wanted to watch a movie. We arrange the day/time/film and we're in constant communication as we organise it. The very last minute, she tells me that she’s changed her mind because she doesn't want to spend money. I'm pissed off because I got dressed and I'm ready to leave but I didn't show my anger over the phone. I tell her we can hang out anyways and do something "free" and she declines. I let the issue go considering that she has never flaked on be before and has been reliable before.
So we haven't actually met for a few weeks now. I call her up to find out what she's doing over the weekend. She says she is joining her friends in another city to party. She said she would be back in a few days, but was unable to give me a specific day of her return. I was like "cool, tell me when you're back so we can hang out". In my head I'm thinking how does she have money to party with her friends in another city but doesnt have money to watch a film with me. She then gets a little defensive saying that she has no reason to hang out with me and the prospect of us to hanging out seems boring etc. - I found this strange because a few weeks prior she was literally begging for 1-on-1time. After a bit of probing she lets loose that these parties are with a huge group of boys and girls and that her "female friends" are pressuring her to reconnected with her ex boyfriend. She denied that she interested in her ex and said it's the past and will stay in the past.
I let the issue go and hang-up. A couple of hours later I text telling her other girls chasing me, but I still rather hang out with her. In an attempt to let her know that I have options. She then claims that she isn’t attracted to me (despite telling me she was a few weeks back). I told her that I’m not attracted her but still want to spend time with her. I tell her to contact me if she wants to meet up in the future. So I left the ball in her court. I shall be cutting all contact.
Thanks for reading, any advice on how I handled the situation. I can't trust her for a relationship but I wouldn’t mind manoeuvring us to a FB situation as I spin plates.
I've been gaming this girl for about 3 months and seeing this girl on a sexual level for about 2 months.
She used to love public displays of affection i.e. holding hands, hugging/kissing in the street, almost every time we met we had sex. I had her to the point where she was initiating meeting up and texting me everyday. If I didn't reply soon enough she'd double or even triple text to get my attention. Unless we was arranging a date I tried to wait a while before texting make myself appear busy, in reality a lot of the time I was too busy to reply immediately.
A few times she has referred to me as her boyfriend in front of acquaintances and introduced me to her best friend as her new BF, she once asked about our relationship status in front of an acquaintance to which I dodged the question and said I'm "friends" which everyone. Although she seemed a bit taken aback by my response we went on to have crazy foreplay that night.
She has told me on numerous times that she is attracted to me, my body and loves spending 1-on-1 time together. She even told me she loved me twice flippantly, which I sort of brushed off and ignored. At this point I was feeling a bit of pressure of her wanting to make our relationship official but I always brushed off commitment conversation because a serious relationship seemed a bit soon.
Fast forward to the last time we met up, everything is going fine, we head back to my house where we have sex twice as I drop her off I notice that her willingness to reciprocate public displays of affection suddenly drops and she tells me that she doesn't like kissing in public although she never stopped me kissing her in public. I found it strange because for the few weeks prior she had no issue with public displays of effection. Anyways the date ends, overall we had fun.
From this point on, she waited almost a week to text me, which is strange considering that she was initiating texting everyday obsessively before. I texted her to see what's up and she apologised and said she has been busy. In my mind I knew it was an excuse because girls are NEVER busy when their interest levels are high for a guy. Her initiating text messages became even less frequent. I was now instigating the text messages to bait her to join me for a date. I spread my text messages across a few days so I didn't appear desperate and needy and she always replied, she still initiated some text messages but not obsessively like in the pasts. She would sidestep meeting up again because she has reconnect with university friends and is partying with them in another city and hence too busy.
The other day, she texts me saying that she wanted to watch a movie. We arrange the day/time/film and we're in constant communication as we organise it. The very last minute, she tells me that she’s changed her mind because she doesn't want to spend money. I'm pissed off because I got dressed and I'm ready to leave but I didn't show my anger over the phone. I tell her we can hang out anyways and do something "free" and she declines. I let the issue go considering that she has never flaked on be before and has been reliable before.
So we haven't actually met for a few weeks now. I call her up to find out what she's doing over the weekend. She says she is joining her friends in another city to party. She said she would be back in a few days, but was unable to give me a specific day of her return. I was like "cool, tell me when you're back so we can hang out". In my head I'm thinking how does she have money to party with her friends in another city but doesnt have money to watch a film with me. She then gets a little defensive saying that she has no reason to hang out with me and the prospect of us to hanging out seems boring etc. - I found this strange because a few weeks prior she was literally begging for 1-on-1time. After a bit of probing she lets loose that these parties are with a huge group of boys and girls and that her "female friends" are pressuring her to reconnected with her ex boyfriend. She denied that she interested in her ex and said it's the past and will stay in the past.
I let the issue go and hang-up. A couple of hours later I text telling her other girls chasing me, but I still rather hang out with her. In an attempt to let her know that I have options. She then claims that she isn’t attracted to me (despite telling me she was a few weeks back). I told her that I’m not attracted her but still want to spend time with her. I tell her to contact me if she wants to meet up in the future. So I left the ball in her court. I shall be cutting all contact.
Thanks for reading, any advice on how I handled the situation. I can't trust her for a relationship but I wouldn’t mind manoeuvring us to a FB situation as I spin plates.
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