Sudden Loss of Interest?

[ChapStick]

This girl met me at some party and thought I was really hot, so she got my number from one of her friends and started texting me. She was telling me how I'm hot and how we should hang out... Anyways.. We got together a couple days later, and the whole thing was pretty boring..

I tried to keep the whole meeting upbeat, but she was just uninterested or just a boring person. Before we met up a second time, she was texting me long text messages and trying to keep the text conversation going, and now she doesn't seem to be showing the same amount of interest level.

I mean, hell we were sitting in her car for ****ing 30 minutes with me talking and her just being quiet... And I asked her, "what are you doing?" She said, "I'm just listening to music." The night ended with her saying, "It was nice meeting you." Clearly not a good sign. Then again I wasn't very kiss-ass to her the whole night and I really did talk a lot of ****... All from insulting her taste in shoes (we were at the mall and she was looking at shoes) to how messy her car was (It was hella cluttered with ****).

Any idea of why the sudden change? Haha, I mean with an interest level that high, you would think that the **** I said wouldn't change her interest in me.

I guess the real question I should be asking is, do I just drop this chick and move on because she has lost interest, or is she just trying to not look that easy?

 

[ChapStick]

The chick I'm with now... I had the most boring first night with and at the end she sorta said...."well.. cya" and I said "You know what!? YOU SUCK... MAN U ARE SOOOO BORING! WHAT THE FCK IS WRONG WITH YOU!".

The next day I messaged her on MSN and told her I wanted to **** her. She said "I thought you didn't like me!?!", I said "no I just wanted to fck". Guess what? I fvcked her that day and almost every day after..... still am.

maybe she was nervous. make sure to call them out on their sh1t.

Haha, that's exactly what happened with her... But when you talked to her on MSN again, was she showing signs of disinterest or whatever?

 

[Skepsis]

Chap she's probably the type that expects compliments in return.

Telling her that she's pretty before moving in would be a solid game plan.

 

[ChapStick]

naw find something unique about her then compliment, she hear's pretty 24/7 however she probably does'nt hear you have a nice smile and a cute nose, you know make yourself stand out.

And maybe she was shy, I know some girls who don't talk much in person but are wild on text messages and IM.

On text she has been cutting her messages short, so I took it as a sign of disinterest and stopped texting her. I can't help but feel that I didn't show much interest since I kind of was a jerk to her on purpose. I didn't like when she was bragging about how her ex's are still wanting her and how she has been asked to model. When she told me the whole modeling thing, I just looked at her and said, "really? Weird." (in a, "are you sure?" kind of tone).

I've decided to just move on, although I'd like to know how I ****ed up. I don't have the greatest game, so of course I'd like to learn from my mistakes.

I'm thinking maybe you guys are right and I should've complimented her on something instead of basically being an ******* the whole night. I didn't realize I was doing it until I went home and thought about it the next day. lol

 

[Sandow]

there's no reason to neg if a chick is really attracted to you. If a babe is showing high interest (in your case she was showing really high interest by those texts) then you should've complimented her.

and/or having a good conversation by revealing disclosures. In disclosures, you basically relate to her and mention how you guys have a lot in common.

Not all girls are the same, and in this case, she's probably a little sensitive. I've always said, one of the most important things you can do is learn to read a chick. Let me guess, she probably wasn't really responsive to your negs/jerk comments?

Again, why are you trying to qualify yourself to a girl that is already interested in you? When a babe is already really attracted to you, cut the B.S.(qualifying yourself by showing your not a wuss, that your a man, ie negs/cf) it's all down hill from there. the attraction stage is over, just relate with her and go with the flow man.

 

[ChapStick]

there's no reason to neg if a chick is really attracted to you. If a babe is showing high interest (in your case she was showing really high interest by those texts) then you should've complimented her.

and/or having a good conversation by revealing disclosures. In disclosures, you basically relate to her and mention how you guys have a lot in common.

Not all girls are the same, and in this case, she's probably a little sensitive. I've always said, one of the most important things you can do is learn to read a chick. Let me guess, she probably wasn't really responsive to your negs/jerk comments?

Again, why are you trying to qualify yourself to a girl that is already interested in you? When a babe is already really attracted to you, cut the B.S.(qualifying yourself by showing your not a wuss, that your a man, ie negs/cf) it's all down hill from there. the attraction stage is over, just relate with her and go with the flow man.

You're absolutely right! Love the way you put your answer.

In all honesty, I didn't realize how much of a jerk I was being until I went home and thought about it. She wasn't responsive at all to my jerk comments. She took them seriously. I was serious, but I think she took it as me not being interested in her. I'll admit, my interest level in her wasn't that high especially after her totally obvious display of narcissism. I guess this all works out for the good since I wouldn't want to be together with a chick like that anyways.

At least I'll know what to do next time if I'm ever in the same situation.

Thanks for all your guys' responses. It has helped me get a better perspective on what I've done wrong.

 

[Skepsis]

On text she has been cutting her messages short, so I took it as a sign of disinterest and stopped texting her. I can't help but feel that I didn't show much interest since I kind of was a jerk to her on purpose. I didn't like when she was bragging about how her ex's are still wanting her and how she has been asked to model. When she told me the whole modeling thing, I just looked at her and said, "really? Weird." (in a, "are you sure?" kind of tone).

I've decided to just move on, although I'd like to know how I ****ed up. I don't have the greatest game, so of course I'd like to learn from my mistakes.

I'm thinking maybe you guys are right and I should've complimented her on something instead of basically being an ******* the whole night. I didn't realize I was doing it until I went home and thought about it the next day. lol

"Are you sure...?"

You're now my #1 choice for a wingman.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Maybe, you were talking too much. Maybe, you were talking about boring stuff. Maybe, you should of took action instead of sitting in her car doing nothing. Or she was just boring and shy. You should wait for her to call and have her ask you to hang out. When, she calls you can say; "That sounds fun but, last time we just sat in your car and I did the all the talking. So, I don't know if it's worth my time." If she is interested she will make a effort to make it worth your while.

 

[ChapStick]

"Are you sure...?"

You're now my #1 choice for a wingman.

LOL I'm actually really fair when I go out sarging with friends. I'm a nice guy with an edge. Too bad my friends don't share the same level of respect when out sarging (trying to trash talk me in front of the girl I'm gaming.. etc...) I believe in being a gentleman to girls that deserve to be treated that way.