"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sudden drop in interest in me

Ironwill

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Man this girl is just complicated, I need some help to understand wtf is going on here.
So this girl in my class (about a 7) was extremly interested in me and gave me IOS like always searching for my gaze, touching me, talking to me even when she had nothing to say etc.

I didn't care for her at all until like 3 weeks ago, I seem to be attracted to her in a physical and emotional way.
We hang out once with some friends, but that's all we did until recently when I was in need for someone to help me learning for my spain exam and the 2 people I asked hadn't had the time.


She was sitting there doing her stuff after spain class and I was like she's really good I should ask her( didn't tought that much about it, getting ready for school and hanging out with her, good idea it seemed).
We set up a ''date'' for friday.
After we talked her IOS were high, I mean even a blind guy could see it.
But she later came to me and told me that she couldn't come friday so we set up a new time for sunday.
We talked like 15 ****ing minutes because she didn't want to come over to me.

I was like I don't give a **** about your opinion I just decide for you too!
(I did it in a funny way), played with here feelings here and there, talking with her interacting with other people near us, freezing here out, being funny but also direct.
She seemed overhelmed and agreed.

So today it was like the total opposite, she seemed absolutly cold towards me, even though the weeks before this and yesterday I was 99% sure she was attracted to me.
She was pissed of towards me and told me that it was my fault that she was sitting late at night and writing spain rules grammar and stuff onto the piece of paper she brought with.
We argured later on and it ended in me coming to her, she gave me her cellphone number and told me to write her an sms when I come over at the station and she would collect me, because I don't know where she lives.
She was cold, I mean like a ****ing ice cube cold.
She only broke two times her ''I am so damn not interested in you and I am pissed off'' bull****, when I was to charming I guess and she HAD to smile.

At the moment I don't think that she is worth it, too much drama and games, I told her that it doesn't matter how good she is at spain, it won't make up for the **** I had to go through, because of her behavior.
I was like let's forget it and she told me something like, you have to come over, because otherwise you will fail at the exam.
Then we're interrupted by a girl ( HB9, is also interested in me, but she's a *****...) who touched me and pulled me away from her.

So I think I will write her an sms and tell her that she better is in one hell of a good mood when I see her, otherwise I will leave instantly.
If I see that she's attracted to me then I will escelate, othwerwise I will take the free lessons and forget her, too much bull****.

The thing is I don't know what happened.
Is she overhelmed by me?
Not interested anymore?
Playing mind games?

I can't figure it out, at THAT is what pisses me off.

Any ideas guys?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Adrian

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She wasn't even interested from the start. Don't try to make her interested in you and take control of yourself.
 

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Seems to me like she was a little bit at first, but then something happened before friday to make her lose it. Did you act needy or anything? And the ****y and funny attitude doesn't always work on all the girls, it usually only works on the hott ones.
 

Adrian

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Actually the ****y/funny lines will generally work if they're interested or semi interested, hot nor not.
 

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foomee said:
Seems to me like she was a little bit at first, but then something happened before friday to make her lose it. Did you act needy or anything? And the ****y and funny attitude doesn't always work on all the girls, it usually only works on the hott ones.
Probaly, and I didn't know I did.
Yeah I am alot better with really hot girls, but this one is an exception.
The thing is it was really suddenly, the interest was there for weeks ( but I didn't care).

@Adrian, thanks man I think you're right, didn't tought of that before, but it DOES make sense.
Guess you saved me from a mistake there, eh?
It really is obvios, but sometimes you have to ask other people, because you don't see it by yourself.

I am still thinking if I should take the free lessons, on one hand it was the origional idea, on the other hand if Adrian is right I made a fool out of myself.:)

Gotta think about that!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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np bro. If what I said is what your gut has been telling you before I posted anything then you should listen to it. Also if you want free lessons which was your original idea then go for it. Don't let a woman or any woman for that matter stand in your way of your plans and don't beat yourself up over a mistake. You learn from them.
 

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So I am back from her and I guess Adrian was right after all.
I was hanging out with her for like 3 hours, we did have fun, I learned and all, but there was almost no sexual interest from her side.
There was alot of kino, but it felt more like hanging out with a friend.
I think there was a little sexual interest, I could feel and see it, but otherwise it was just not there.

I knew I would **** up when I would try to kiss her, so I didn't do anything.
The thing is I was total cold when I was with her, she's totally different from what I imaged.
She walked with me until the station and this one kid sang something about us being lovers, she laughed and seemed happy.
I said we're to different and she said no we're exactly the same.
I was like nah we're not in love and neither lovers.
She agreed.
The thing is, what IF she actualy was interested and I kissed her?
THis question tears me apart.

Man I don't know why, but I just CAN'T let her go, my heart tells me, I WANT HER NOW! ****ing take her!
You ****ing FAILED!
Whereas my mind tells me, stop it, she's only interested in friendship, forget her.
There better girls out there, with her personality, better looks then her etc.

This girl got me good, I don't know how but she seriosly got me good.
So what do I do know?
Forget her? Trying this stupid ass ganji games to get her ass?
I need to solve this problem, it ****s up my concentration, it distrects myself from my goals.
I can only be happy when I get her or when I totally forget her.:box:

I am sitting in front of my Computer and I think WTF happened just now?
Man I can't think straight at the moment, it's like she left something inside me.
 

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I'm not saying this is always the case, but being pissed at you does not mean lowered interest. If she wasnt interested, I dont think she would be mad. I think you're still in the game, just be a little nicer. Arguing=emotions!

If they're showing you no emotions at all, then you've lost. You are totally still in this.
 
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