sudden change in her attitude

[Parsifal]

Hi, here's something that happened to me:

Two weeks ago I met this girl on the net. After some talking we found out that we had a lot in common and wanted to get to know eachother better. We really talked a lot about stuff we both liked and we decided to meet. For the days to come she kept talking about how curious she was and that she wanted to meet me asap. I was curious too, I really liked her in a way, so we met up yesterday.
After some strolling we ended up in her room where she was obviously craving for a kiss. So I kissed her and she was like: weee, I'm gonna send you a Valentine's Card and stuff like: I want to meet you again soon bla bla bla. After dinner she said she wanted to come to my place next Friday. I really liked this girl so I thought why not. I said I was looking forward to it.

I took the train back home and I got this annoying message, which for the dj leaves little to imagination: 'I got to talk to you'
On the net later that night she told me we were moving way too fast, and she thought I was deeply in love with her. Well, I wasn't, but my remark about looking forward to the next date apparently made her shiver. She wants to 'slow down'. She said she still wants to see me and get to know me better and stuff, but she doesn't want me to be her boyfriend for the moment.

I know things happened fast and I am not in love with this girl (although I really like her), but I have little clues what to do next. Is 'slowing down' ******** for 'no way'? Should I stop seeing and chatting when she's acting more distant from now on? What are the signs to run away from girls like this? :/

I hope someone could tell me more.

 

[tmpgstx]

Beware of this one Dawg, sounds like a drama queen.

She talks about sending a Valentines card, and you just say you look forward to her visit next Friday?

Yes she says that's moving way too fast, but sending a Valentine's card isn't?

She doesn't want you to be her boyfriend at the moment? Who said anything about this?

I think she likes you but may be seeing someone else. She want's to keep you in the loop, but keeping you at a distance she can 'have fun' with other guys.

 

[Parsifal]

Thanks for replying... you're probably right.
If she's being a drama queen on day 1, I dunno where this will lead eventually... probably to a very, very unpleasant point in my life :/
Anyway, I sort of agreed to meet her again in the future, don't know when. I need time to think this cr@p over.

 

[Jariel]

If she wants to slow down, then SLOOOOOOW down. Take it to the point of being cold with her. This is always a good test of interest.

She definitely sounds like a drama queen and is best taken very casually. I wouldn't advise investing much time or hope in this one.

 

[cave dweller]

slow........

Hey,

'Slow down' means I am checking out other guys and am thinking about dumping your @ss.

cave dweller

 

[FrankWank]

sudden change in attitude is just finding a way to get into an argument with you, giving her an excuse to see other guys

 

[Parsifal]

Well I recall an article on this site saying one should walk away from this kind of girls - if she's really interested she'll drop me a line.
You guys could be right on the whole 'I wanna see other guys'-thing, since last week she said something about one or two guys who wanted to be her 'back up dates' or whatever. I thought she said that to make me jealous.
Either way, I'm not replying to her messages now and I don't want to talk to her at the moment- I got to find me a decent girl this time... As a wise man once put it: 'A man should only love a woman who loves him first and a lot'!

 

[The Rake]

You: "I said I was looking forward to it."

Dude, you came on too fast just like so many guys out there. That's anti-challenge.