Sudden Change in behavior

[Serg897]

So here's a quick puzzle for you guys:

Im dating a girl (for about two months now), seeing her often, I make her laugh, she is texting/calling me often, the sex is great, we are seemingly having a lot of fun.

A little less than two weeks ago, her behavior changes. Suddenly, she becomes very stand-offish, no longer texting or calling quite as much, and generally seeming colder/more distant.

Based on that alone, what do you think is going on? Any theories? Should I just be seeing more women?

 

[KontrollerX]

Oh there's a bunch of things this behavior could indicate but you left out a ton of extra information for us to go on so I'll give you my assumptions off the tiny bit you have told us thus far...

1. She could be doing a common thing among women and that is expecting you to be a mind reader and make her your official girlfriend now and say it which is why she suddenly turned on her anti slvt defense and cut off the sex and acting good towards you. Note: Even if it is this one you don't ever tell a woman you are making her your girlfriend until she one day asks you the infamous question "What are we?" and then you can either ask her what she wants to make her not be covert and actually answer that she wants to be boyfriend/girlfriend or because you already know why she's asking you this question you can evade it by saying you are two people having fun if you don't want to make her your girlfriend.

See to clarify if you do want to make her your girlfriend you should keep the power over the situation by waiting for her to ask the "What are we?" question and then making her clarify what she wants because if she brings up the boyfriend girlfriend stuff by you drawing her out of being covert like a typical woman its clear that she wants you to be her boyfriend.

If you were to instead answer the what are we question by telling her she's your girlfriend she could take that as a form of power over you and use it against you later by saying you loved her so much you just couldn't help but make her your girlfriend and then she'd claim her intentions with the what are we question wasn't asking to be boyfriend/girlfriend at all so avoid that bullsh!t and keep your power by doing what I said. Don't mind all the fvckin symps on here who might jump on my post and tell you not to worry about power positions in relationships as they don't know what the fvck they are talking about.

2. Hey simply put she could've found another guy revealing herself to be a cheating ho. This is common behavior when a chick either cheats on you or suddenly decides you aren't the right guy for her. It sucks but it happens.

3. Has some retarded girlfriends or read some retarded women's magazine that told her to play hard to get to keep a guy she really likes.

You must answer this retarded challenge by pulling away from her just as much to beat it. No trying to prove yourself to her and that you really want her giving up your power position. She must come back to you with the full force of what you two were doing before for this relationship interaction to continue.

4. Whenever you get lost and don't know what to do resume plate spinning. Don't let a woman mind game you or ever make you wonder what the fvck happened. Go bone some other chicks and chalk the one up who started acting weird as immature. No need to burn your bridge with her either just use her for sex if she ever comes around again wanting to see you but yeah don't avoid other options at all when a chick starts fvcking with your mind like this with shady or otherwise weird behavior. Boning other chicks is the cure all to relationship BS.

 

[Serg897]

Thank you much for the detailed reply. Let me fill you in on something that happened during this relationship that might give you more insight.

About a month ago there was a little crisis that occured, when she sent me a cryptic text message saying that she had "serious stuff to talk to me about", then she continued by saying she was "still not over another guy" that she was seeing last year.

This other guy was apparently a Turkish exchange student who she saw last year for a while, but has since gone back to Turkey, according to her. It led to a conversation about our "status" - in which I expressed that ultimately I sorta want an actual relationship (which I do). Then she tells me she is not ready for a commitment. This is why I dont think its #1.

HOWEVER, needless to say, I wasn't going to tolerate this sort of bull**** - and I told her I was breaking off the relationship for these reasons. And so I did.

Immediately though, she started to come back, sending me texts and whatnot. After about a week of this I caved and started to see her again, hence where we are now. This could have been a mistake, but Im often picky about women I choose to get into relationships with - and I like this one. So I decided to give her another chance, despite all the nonsense.

After that there was a happy period of great sex and fun, like I stated earlier.

Then, once again, funny **** starts going on. I'm just not sure what to make of it. But I dont think its #1. It seems like this entire time Im the one thats wanted more commitment than her. It could always be #2 of course. Or some other retarded reason. Or maybe she is just losing interest for some reason.

Im just a little bit unsure of where we are headed, and how I should continue playing this, if at all.

 

[NickSCFC2000]

How did this turn out for you Serg?