"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You'd think I should be happy with my situation. I've made a ton of progress since visiting this site.

I've lost my inhibitions, I can ask out girls, and I'm pretty good at it. A few weeks ago I met a chick on a bus, got her number. Her and I went on a bike ride a few days later, and last night she invited me to go Salsa dancing with her, and she also brought lots of her female friends to the dance place. At the Salsa dance I probably talked to 6 girls or so, I had no trouble, and could've gotten numbers if I had wanted to.

Problem: I'm not attracted to any of the girls I mentioned above (neither the one from the bus, nor ANYONE at the Salsa club).

Why? Because I'm still obsessing over this chick at work. Ever since I met her 6 months ago, I've been thinking about her day and night, all day, every minute I'm thinking about her. But she's not single and doesn't care about me. This is a serious case of onenitis.

Everywhere I go, I try to find chicks who LOOK LIKE HER. But of course, nobody does.

I've lost attraction to all girls, except her. When I see her at work time stops and I feel like I'm walking on clouds.

HOW DO I FIX THIS??? I want to be attracted to other women again!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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