Successfully Approaching Women at Work (General Public Workers)

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The idea of approaching women while they are at their jobs containing interaction with the general public is a topic that is somewhat contentious among men.

When I think of women who work with the general public, these are the categories that come to mind of women to approach.

Strippers: Almost every man wants to bang a stripper.
Breastaurant Workers: For those not aware, breastaurants are the Hooters and Twin Peaks type restaurants.
Bartenders
Waitresses at Conventional Sit Down Restaurants
Coffee Shop Baristas/Fast Food Workers:
The women who work at independent coffee shops and Starbucks can be attractive. I've never seen a hottie at Dunkin' Donuts. I've also never seen a hottie at McDonald's, Wendy's, and the like. If you are a hottie, you tend to find better employment than McDonald's.
Gym Personal Trainers or other gym staffers: A hot PT is a big turn on.
Real Estate Agents
Hotel and Retail Workers:
This would tend to happen more for higher end retail workers than women who work at Walmart, Target, or a supermarket chain. Nordstrom's workers can be attractive. Hotels often have hotties working as staffers. Las Vegas hotels/casinos are known for this, but it can also in some bigger tourist destinations.
Healthcare Workers: It is a pretty common scenario to find an attractive woman as a nurse or medical assistant at a medical office or hospital. Dental hygienists at the dentist's office are common hotties. Years ago, when my grandmother died, I went to the assisted living facility where she died right after her death to help family members clean out her unit. There was a hot nurse/medical assistant there. My grandmother lived in another state not nearby and I was only in the city for a few days and did not have logistics. I also had a girlfriend at home at the time. There was a bit of a flirty vibe there. My cousin, who was in a declining marriage at the time, and local probably could have tried it. I think guys in their 20s/30s visiting their grandparents in facilities can hit on workers there, or guys in their 40s/early 50s with their declining parents.
Teachers/College Professors/School Staff: I'm not a parent, but I could see a scenario where a single dad might be interested in his kid's teacher or maybe a different teacher in the same school he meets in the hallway for parent-teacher conferences. An even better scenario might be a single uncle meeting his niece's/nephew's teacher at a school play or other elementary school type event, though single uncles rarely would attend such an event. A lot of younger undergrad men will be interested in their older woman college professor, TA, or other instructor.

I've generally believed in not hitting on women at work. It's ideal to meet women who work with the public in settings outside of work. Sometimes, that is not feasible though. If you are at the dentist and spot a hot dental hygienist, you should probably make a move then and there. Besides, you're not in the dentist's office much.

I had the holy grail experience in this happen to me while in college. I was playing pickup basketball and one night a stripper joined us. I got her number, we went out once. I tried to get her to bang. She didn't bang that night, and then eventually flaked. This flaking was special because it happened years before the first iPhone was released. Flaking was not as common in the pre-smartphone era.

I'd like to read some stories about these experiences and I think we can have a really good chat around it.
 

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While I don't typically flirt with women that are working, this sounds like a great thread.

There was a dental hygienist who really liked me though. She would always ask if I had a gf, and she purposely kept her boob PRESSED into my shoulder while she was scraping my teeth lol. Most women would immediately (and understandably) pull away after accidental contact like that. This one just kept it there each time like it was no big deal. Mike never needed novacaine lol.

We joked around some, but I tried to keep it clean because the dentist (her boss) could walk in at any time.

Hygienist: Any plans for Valentine's Day?
Mike: Don't know yet. I may go out, but it will be just couples and single dudes.
Hygienist: Why single dudes?
Mike: They think they still have a chance.
Hygienist: LOL. That's the funniest thing I heard. Never thought of it that way.
 
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You forgot a major one: hair stylists. The hair stylists at trendy salons are always 20-something hyper nympho-maniacs. Go to any salon and you'll notice that the stylists are almost always tattooed and pierced up with blue or pink hair. These women are major h0es......

The act of touching hair is a sexual act, women love touching hair whether it be a man's hair or a woman's hair. The close proximity and physical contact is what makes hair salon such a sexually charged atmosphere.

What guys should do is cultivate relationships with hair stylists and if there's a positive vibe that's when you can make a move.

Of course the prerequisite for this is to have decent head of hair and a cool hairstyle

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You forgot a major one: hair stylists. The hair stylists at trendy salons are always 20-something hyper nympho-maniacs. Go to any salon and you'll notice that the stylists are almost always tattooed and pierced up with blue or pink hair. These women are major h0es......

The act of touching hair is a sexual act, women love touching hair whether it be a man's hair or a woman's hair. The close proximity and physical contact is what makes hair salon such a sexually charged atmosphere.

What guys should do is cultivate relationships with hair stylists and if there's a positive vibe that's when you can make a move.
I agree hair stylists are a major one and that I missed it. I knew I'd miss at least one. I've actually not had my hair cut since early March. Pre-pandemic, I primarily went to an independent barber shop that had more male barbers. A more testosterone place. I would occasionally go to a Great Clips or Supercuts type place. The females at Great Clips/Supercuts are usually not the 20-something hyper nymphomaniacs, but you might occasionally find one there. More independent salons are where those women tend to be.

Great point!
 

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Of course the prerequisite for this is to have decent head of hair and a cool hairstyle
You got me hooked and crushed my euphoria right there. But... I haven't tried to grow out my hair in a long, long time...
 

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Nurses were my lifeline during the Coronavirus lockdown. Since they were used to being in the danger zone, they were one of the few that were willing to meet up easily. Plus quite a few nurses have that mentality that they wanna take care of you. Another aspect is they just wanted the D without any game playing because after a long shift and stressful working situations, the last thing they wanted was to beat around the bush and give more effort and get tired.

Now it's shifting to Teachers since they are used to doing a lot of fun things like traveling which has been severely restricted. A lot of them have boring summers now that school is out and things aren't still fully opened. They also have the most amount of time so it's nice that they can work with your schedule. Another thing is if you're able to charm them good, they aren't that busy these day except to think of you. And of course the more they think of you, the more they will desire you. It can be a win/win...
 

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Nurses were my lifeline during the Coronavirus lockdown. Since they were used to being in the danger zone, they were one of the few that were willing to meet up easily. Plus quite a few nurses have that mentality that they wanna take care of you. Another aspect is they just wanted the D without any game playing because after a long shift and stressful working situations, the last thing they wanted was to beat around the bush and give more effort and get tired.

Now it's shifting to Teachers since they are used to doing a lot of fun things like traveling which has been severely restricted. A lot of them have boring summers now that school is out and things aren't still fully opened. They also have the most amount of time so it's nice that they can work with your schedule. Another thing is if you're able to charm them good, they aren't that busy these day except to think of you. And of course the more they think of you, the more they will desire you. It can be a win/win...
Is your first interaction with them meeting them in person at their places of work? That's what this is meant to address.

Meeting nurses and teachers on swipe apps or in public when they are off duty is different.

In general, nurses and teachers are both better than average type mates than the typical female office professional with a BA/BS degree or higher.
 

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Is your first interaction with them meeting them in person at their places of work? That's what this is meant to address.

Meeting nurses and teachers on swipe apps or in public when they are off duty is different.

In general, nurses and teachers are both better than average type mates than the typical female office professional with a BA/BS degree or higher.
My bad. Carry on...

FWIW, I've been in the ER a couple times and all the nurses I've come into contact there seem pleasant meeting them in real life first impressions. It's just that hitting on them is the last thing on your mind when you're in the ER. LOL
 

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FWIW, I've been in the ER a couple times and all the nurses I've come into contact there seem pleasant meeting them in real life first impressions. It's just that hitting on them is the last thing on your mind when you're in the ER. LOL
I understand. When most healthy people are in the ER to see a family member or friend who has had an emergency (non-COVID times), they are not necessarily thinking about getting their diccks wet. When I was the assisted living facility cleaning out my grandmother's place after her death, I was thinking about getting my dicck wet, but did have a girlfriend at home in another state. Had I been single and local to my grandmother, I would have escalated that nurse/medical worker.

A single and motivated guy can meet a medical worker while that medical worker is on duty. I've generally preferred to meet women off duty. Many times as a guy, you can see an opportunity in person. Hitting on a nurse at a senior care facility or a dental hygienist at the dentist's office is probably a little bit different than hitting on a Hooters waitress/bartender while being with a friend at Hooters.

There was a dental hygienist who really liked me though. She would always ask if I had a gf, and she purposely kept her boob PRESSED into my shoulder while she was scraping my teeth lol. Most women would immediately (and understandably) pull away after accidental contact like that. This one just kept it there each time like it was no big deal. Mike never needed novacaine lol.

We joked around some, but I tried to keep it clean because the dentist (her boss) could walk in at any time.

Hygienist: Any plans for Valentine's Day?
Mike: Don't know yet. I may go out, but it will be just couples and single dudes.
Hygienist: Why single dudes?
Mike: They think they still have a chance.
Hygienist: LOL. That's the funniest thing I heard. Never thought of it that way.
Did you ever make things happen with her outside the dentist's office?
 
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Most of my non-Tinder dates have come this route. It does take some skill to recognize the difference between good customer service & a genuine interest. Get some business cards. I find that if I give a card at the right time, the girl will often volunteer her # too.
 

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You forgot a major one: hair stylists. The hair stylists at trendy salons are always 20-something hyper nympho-maniacs. Go to any salon and you'll notice that the stylists are almost always tattooed and pierced up with blue or pink hair. These women are major h0es......

The act of touching hair is a sexual act, women love touching hair whether it be a man's hair or a woman's hair. The close proximity and physical contact is what makes hair salon such a sexually charged atmosphere.

What guys should do is cultivate relationships with hair stylists and if there's a positive vibe that's when you can make a move.

Of course the prerequisite for this is to have decent head of hair and a cool hairstyle

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All I see are older Asian hairstylests.
 

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Good thread idea. Is there a general "approach thread" on this site? A key is breaking workers out of auto pilot. One good all purpose line from Juggler I've used many times is when they ask "how are you doing today" respond with "good/splendiferous/whatever how are you" and when they say good respond "damn, I was hoping to find someone who was doing bad so I could cheer them up". For direct I've occasionally used "oh hey, you're cuter than the average (whatever) employee" and then immediately break tension with "I was wondering if you could tell me where the (whatever) is" and game on from there if she's into it.

I probably could've banged a hot nurse I had after hernia surgery. No opener there that I remember but we were talking. She mentioned a BF at one point and my dad was my ride home so didn't go for the number. Still regret that one. Gf was pissed when I got a card signed by all the nurses but that one wrote a little message with a heart by her sig tho :D
 

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Pretty much any type of job that requires close physical proximity is a good opportunity to spit game.

Strippers giving lap dances, nurses drawing blood or injections, hair stylists touching your hair, masseuses giving massages, personal trainers demonstrating form....... those are the ones that comes to mind off the top of my head.....

I recently been going to a weight loss clinic to get appetite suppressants and B12 injections on a weekly basis. Every time I come in the nurse always wants to inject the shot in my butt cheeks instead of my arm. She also insists that I take my shirt off when I weigh in to "get a more accurate reading".... Considering that she's usually the only staff in the office and that the office is usually empty I guess this would be a great opportunity to spit game, but I'm not particularly attracted to her.
 

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Also, I forgot about this one: Flower shops.

Flower shops generally have female staff and they're usually pretty cute. A game that I once tried running was to have the female staff advise me on what type of flowers to get a girlfriend that I recently broke up with - I pretended like I was trying to win her back.

Of course the female staff would ask sh1t like:
"What does she like?"
"What's her favorite color?"

And the female staff would make a variety of different suggestions which could segue into some conversation.
 

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This is just a funny anecdote not a pickup story...

This hot ER nurse was undoing my IV. I have hairy arms. She told me she felt bad about having to rip the tape off. I told her not to worry and just go for it.

She said, “I don’t have this problem. I don’t have hair.”

With my mind in the gutter, I burst out laughing. It “clicked,” and she started laughing too.
 
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You forgot a major one: hair stylists. The hair stylists at trendy salons are always 20-something hyper nympho-maniacs. Go to any salon and you'll notice that the stylists are almost always tattooed and pierced up with blue or pink hair. These women are major h0es......

The act of touching hair is a sexual act, women love touching hair whether it be a man's hair or a woman's hair. The close proximity and physical contact is what makes hair salon such a sexually charged atmosphere.

What guys should do is cultivate relationships with hair stylists and if there's a positive vibe that's when you can make a move.

Of course the prerequisite for this is to have decent head of hair and a cool hairstyle

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It is a very sexually charged setting. The woman who cuts my hair is very sexual about it, pushing her breasts against me and stuff. And I'm cutting my hair at her since I was like 12 yo. Guess it's kinda obvious why I always go to her.;)
Never thought much about it untin now tho. Yeah, hair stylists...hot!

Also, I forgot about this one: Flower shops.
Flower shops generally have female staff and they're usually pretty cute.
Damn. In my country, all the flower-selling women are mid-aged gypsies.


For direct I've occasionally used "oh hey, you're cuter than the average (whatever) employee" and then immediately break tension with "I was wondering if you could tell me where the (whatever) is" and game on from there if she's into it.
That actually sounds like a PUA stuff that works. Good stuff.
I might try it out just for fun;)
 
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Also, I forgot about this one: Flower shops.

Flower shops generally have female staff and they're usually pretty cute. A game that I once tried running was to have the female staff advise me on what type of flowers to get a girlfriend that I recently broke up with - I pretended like I was trying to win her back.

Of course the female staff would ask sh1t like:
"What does she like?"
"What's her favorite color?"

And the female staff would make a variety of different suggestions which could segue into some conversation.
I hadn't even thought of this when pulling together the original list. This is why we have discussions. I haven't bought flowers in such a long time so I'm very rarely inside of a flower shop.
 

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A lot of men also find themselves attracted to their doctors (either primary care or specialist) or a mental health professional. Probably best to meet these women outside of a work context if you want to bang a doctor or mental health professional.
 
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