I could never talk to girls. Girls would come up to me and talk to me, but i could never hold a conversation. I watched complete ass holes who were but ugly and look like a beast get all the girls. I was a shy kid who was the one people looked at and thought was weird.
i was 17 and never kissed a girl and never had a gf. I thought i was a looser and that i could never change. But about a year ago i realized that i could change. For all the time i sat around moping, I relized i could be doing things to change my situation. I realized i did not want to be sad and depreased. Why should people have power of me. Why should i let them have power over my emotions my actions. I used this to fuel my desire's of change. I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but i kept my desire strong.
I realized that the first thing i was going to need was self-confidence. So i enrolled into martial arts which gave me a huge boost in confidence. I began to take brazillian ju-jitsue. Not only did ju-jitsue build up my self esteem , but it got me into increadable shape. I learned how to take an ass-wooping and eventually learned how to dish one out since once a week we would have contact sparring and grappaling.
Since a lot of people saw my confidence level was rising i started to make a lot of enemys. Every day people would try to put me down id just laugh at them because i knew i was becoming a threat to them. One day a kid even tryed to fight me but i knocked him out in 4 punches. After i had layed down that ass wooping people backed off. I still got the put downs from some people but it didnt matter they couldnt hurt my confidence anymore.
Now that i had my confidence i needed to learn how to talk to girls. I just started talking to the people who nobody talked to. The outcasts like myself. Eventually i was able to hold a convorsation with other people. I then tried to ask a girl to my junior prom ,but she said no. Now after that some people would have given up , but i didnt. I could tell that people had already pre-judged me at my highschool and that it was going to be difficult and the only way girls at my hs would like me is if i could make them jealous.
So i began to turn to some of my friends from out of school. One of my friends named chris was an absolute pimp. He got all the ladies. So i told him my situation and i asked him if i could just hang out with him. So i started to hang out with chris and met some buetifull girls and i was gaining experiance in talking to them. I never thought wow let me see if she will go out with me, I just acted normal and learned on how to pick up conversations and learned how to find thouse little hints girls give.
Eventually after trying hard for a long time and never giving up, I became friends with some of these girls and i met some friends of the girls. On my friend chris's birthday i met this one girl and we just talked like the whole night. The next morning she friend requested me on myspace. So i began talking to her online and got her number. 2 weeks latter we went to see a movie she put her head on my shoulder so i put my arm around her and then a little while after i had my first kiss
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All in all it took about a 14 months of hard work to get there but i never gave up. I met a lot of hardships along the way ,but i managed to pull myself up from the gutter. Im posting this so that other peole who feel down about themselfs realize that they can change! All you need is a strong will and a desire to change and you can do it!!
i was 17 and never kissed a girl and never had a gf. I thought i was a looser and that i could never change. But about a year ago i realized that i could change. For all the time i sat around moping, I relized i could be doing things to change my situation. I realized i did not want to be sad and depreased. Why should people have power of me. Why should i let them have power over my emotions my actions. I used this to fuel my desire's of change. I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but i kept my desire strong.
I realized that the first thing i was going to need was self-confidence. So i enrolled into martial arts which gave me a huge boost in confidence. I began to take brazillian ju-jitsue. Not only did ju-jitsue build up my self esteem , but it got me into increadable shape. I learned how to take an ass-wooping and eventually learned how to dish one out since once a week we would have contact sparring and grappaling.
Since a lot of people saw my confidence level was rising i started to make a lot of enemys. Every day people would try to put me down id just laugh at them because i knew i was becoming a threat to them. One day a kid even tryed to fight me but i knocked him out in 4 punches. After i had layed down that ass wooping people backed off. I still got the put downs from some people but it didnt matter they couldnt hurt my confidence anymore.
Now that i had my confidence i needed to learn how to talk to girls. I just started talking to the people who nobody talked to. The outcasts like myself. Eventually i was able to hold a convorsation with other people. I then tried to ask a girl to my junior prom ,but she said no. Now after that some people would have given up , but i didnt. I could tell that people had already pre-judged me at my highschool and that it was going to be difficult and the only way girls at my hs would like me is if i could make them jealous.
So i began to turn to some of my friends from out of school. One of my friends named chris was an absolute pimp. He got all the ladies. So i told him my situation and i asked him if i could just hang out with him. So i started to hang out with chris and met some buetifull girls and i was gaining experiance in talking to them. I never thought wow let me see if she will go out with me, I just acted normal and learned on how to pick up conversations and learned how to find thouse little hints girls give.
Eventually after trying hard for a long time and never giving up, I became friends with some of these girls and i met some friends of the girls. On my friend chris's birthday i met this one girl and we just talked like the whole night. The next morning she friend requested me on myspace. So i began talking to her online and got her number. 2 weeks latter we went to see a movie she put her head on my shoulder so i put my arm around her and then a little while after i had my first kiss
!All in all it took about a 14 months of hard work to get there but i never gave up. I met a lot of hardships along the way ,but i managed to pull myself up from the gutter. Im posting this so that other peole who feel down about themselfs realize that they can change! All you need is a strong will and a desire to change and you can do it!!
