Success in Gay Clubs (with women).

[jglide123]

If you are into the nightclub scene I highly recommend gay clubs. Women are often there with their gay friends looking to have a great time, hence their defenses are usually lowered. The overall vibe of most gay clubs is usually open and friendly, and it is very easy to open sets. You don't have to worry so much about male competition. In fact, if you open a set and befriend a gay male, he can inadvertently become your wing. However, you have to know how to operate in these environments, and one prerequisite is being comfortable around gay people (obviously).

Also, you have to dress to fit the environment. It's almost like being a covert agent in a silly way, because you're playing your cards close to your chest and slightly misleading people, but in a fun and innocuous way. Some of the most enjoyable nights I've had have come from sarging in gay clubs.

Obviously gay clubs are not for every straight dude, but if you are open-minded and comfortable enough to enter such an environment, it can pay off with women in ways that may surprise you.

P.S. To get an idea of how this could work, check out the movie "The Mating Habits of the Earthbound Human." There is a scene where a straight guy becomes a "fauxmosexual" to pick up girls in gay clubs. However, it didn't end well for him! LOL.

 

[Viagra4Soul]

I agree women are more open in gay clubs to approaches, the only caveat I'd add is that they are often 'hiding out' with their gay friends for a number of good reasons. This can include all sorts of physical, emotional and other stress and abuse they might have recently (or not so recently) suffered from ex/current partners or family.

The caveat being: you'll have no trouble approaching, but be careful what you get and be VERY wary of signs of emotional instability. HB9's rarely hang in gay clubs without a good reason - and that reason may not be beneficial to your intentions.

 

[jglide123]

LOL. Good point Viagra4Soul. You most definitely find the rebellious/emotionally damaged types in "alternative" environments like gay clubs. But just as often you find the "gay till graduation" college chicks and girls who simply feel more comfortable in gay clubs. Also, it is a fact that women are much more flexible to sexual stimuli than men (many women get turned on by both gay and straight porn), so many women go through a "bi" stage.

 

[FairShake]

Nope.

As someone who has hung out in gay clubs both pelt hunting and socially I can tell you gay clubs are not the best places to find women. At least not going in like you guys are.

Much like guys complain women of today are going out to clubs today with the sole intent of hanging with their girlfriends all night in a circle while avoiding our best lines and intentions, straight women in a gay club go to hang out with their gay friends. And their defenses are even stronger since they are there with the single-minded intent NOT to talk to you or any other straight guy. I think this is one of those myths passed on by straight guys who wouldn't be caught dead in gay clubs.

Now...I have hooked up at gay clubs. But only after being introduced by my gay friends. Not by going undercover and trying to trick girls. Not by trying to convert possible "gay until graduation" girls (doing that may get your ass kicked by the more righteous dykes). Only by using "social circle" game and raising my "nice guy" social proof with my gay friends have I been able to hook up at these venues. Gay guys can be the most vicious ****blockers or your best friend. It's your choice.

Maybe your experience is different...

 

[Viagra4Soul]

Maybe your experience is different...

No, mine's the same. But I didn't use lines and my approaches were as casual as standing at the bar buying drinks beside them, or dancing beside them and starting to chat about whatever. I'm a natural - I don't have any canned material, learned style or trick moves. In nearly all cases, they've assumed I was gay and felt comfortable with me - the clubs we used to go too were quite strict against obvious looking straight guys and so we dressed appropriately and danced with the boys we went with.

I'm very comfrotable acting homo/hetero whatever, always have been - in the end though, I only take what I want (women).

 

[Bible_Belt]

It helps if you have lesbian friends and go to the bar with them.

 

[jglide123]

Nope.

As someone who has hung out in gay clubs both pelt hunting and socially I can tell you gay clubs are not the best places to find women. At least not going in like you guys are.

Much like guys complain women of today are going out to clubs today with the sole intent of hanging with their girlfriends all night in a circle while avoiding our best lines and intentions, straight women in a gay club go to hang out with their gay friends. And their defenses are even stronger since they are there with the single-minded intent NOT to talk to you or any other straight guy. I think this is one of those myths passed on by straight guys who wouldn't be caught dead in gay clubs.

Now...I have hooked up at gay clubs. But only after being introduced by my gay friends. Not by going undercover and trying to trick girls. Not by trying to convert possible "gay until graduation" girls (doing that may get your ass kicked by the more righteous dykes). Only by using "social circle" game and raising my "nice guy" social proof with my gay friends have I been able to hook up at these venues. Gay guys can be the most vicious ****blockers or your best friend. It's your choice.

Maybe your experience is different...

Fair points.

However, I never said gay clubs were the best places to meet women, just that if you're into nightclubs, they can be a fun and often untapped niche straight guys can work. Just like in a straight club you have women, people in general really, who go out with the intention of only socializing within their social groups; that's social environments period, as most people in groups are generally wary of strangers. But in my experience, gay clubs seem to be fertile ground for women looking to experiment, with both men and other women.

Again, the overall vibe of most gay clubs is open, fun and exciting, and because most straight women are there with their friends in a gay environment, they expect most men there to be gay. Therefore, it's usually much easier to open sets just by being a friendly, cool (presumably gay) guy, as opposed to in straight clubs where every girl knows your intentions from the moment you open your mouth.

It's not so much about "tricking" girls into doing anything or attempting to convert chicks from gay to straight. It's more about functioning in an environment where there are a fair amount of open-minded, sexually adventurous women present.

 

[Serg897]

It helps if you have lesbian friends and go to the bar with them.

The truth. One of my best friends is a gay woman - I've gone out with her to gay bars and gotten numbers from women easily.