"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Success and philosophy

MackJr

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I thought I'd mention that it seems that most successful people aren't that philosophical. They're just driven workaholics. The rest of us either don't care, or we sit around thinking about what drives the driven ones.


I've got a platonic friend who's very successful, your standard career-woman archetype. It's really difficult having a conversation with her because she gives short one or two word answers and if you say some she doesn't agree with (like the sky is blue) she'll get mad and argue, then try to trump the argument if she can't win. She usually can't win, either because it's like there are..gaps in her knowledge.

Anyway, I think the trait that makes her successful isn't intelligence or having defined any particular philosophy. it' just that her brain is so rigid, she's able to milk the direction in which she's going. Another way of putting it is that she's not smart enough to know that when she's going the wrong way, and she inevitably gets a few successes as a result.

If you're not naturally stupid, or rigid like that, then you actually have a disadvantage as far as monetary success is concerned.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PeeGee

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More like they have a specific 'philosophy' which doesn't confuse them. I majored in philosophy ffs, so my head is swimming with thoughts. It's more trouble than it's worth.
 

CLOONEY

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Originally posted by MackJr
I thought I'd mention that it seems that most successful people aren't that philosophical. They're just driven workaholics. The rest of us either don't care, or we sit around thinking about what drives the driven ones.

You are absolutely right. It is obvious! Of course its not black and white, generally speaking however it is true!
 

STR8UP

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Originally posted by MackJr
I thought I'd mention that it seems that most successful people aren't that philosophical. They're just driven workaholics. The rest of us either don't care, or we sit around thinking about what drives the driven ones.
What criteria do you use to label someone as "successful"?

Big house and fancy car doesn't equal rich. The only thing that matters is net worth. And people with high net worth tend to have MORE time to ponder things than do others. You are probably looking at high income wage slaves. BIG difference.
 

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"Would you rather write history books, or be the ones whom other people will write about?"

I've noticed people who are 'successful' (meaning they have a strong purpose to their life) rarely sit around pondering the meaning of life, because they've already found it!

That's why bored college teens usually turn up to protest rallies or become socialists or some crap like that. They have nothing else to do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Boner da Stoner

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lol too true mack jr man

you don't make as much money as a workaholic or daft employee can save if you like to have fun and frolic like a human should.

All that I know about those ind of people is that they are very judgemental, if you come off as a party animal initially as a stranger you must work your ass off to fit into their domain. They have extremely strong walls, and these ones you have to hammer away.

Don't know what I'm getting at so ignore me:p
 

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Doesnt that tell you something?
these people simply trade MORE time for the money they acquire, they really dont have anything you cant.
 
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