"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Subway Pickup

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Have an interesting story for you guys and would like your opinions on this girl. About once a week I work at a Subway (as in the fast food place) and although the job sucks I can eat what I want and make some pretty good side commission. Anyway I was chilling out making sandwiches and this cute little blonde who I've seen a few times before comes in with her friend. They are clearly stoned so I start teasing them about that and ask them why they aren't at the beach on such a nice day. After a little flirting and the blonde complimenting my smile, I start helping other customers. So the cute little blonde writes her number on a piece of paper and leaves it for me, telling me we should smoke later. I end up texting her to meetup and we drive around for awhile talking/laughing and having a really good time. We hang out for about 3 hours and she is telling me how she lost hope in guys and lost her virginity only last year at age 20 with the one serious boyfriend she had, but he was a compulsive liar. I basically tuned that **** out because I was focused on the present and she was touching my leg, giving me STRONG signs of attraction. So after all was said and done she got a big hug and a kiss on the cheek goodbye, she lives two blocks from me so I figured I didn't need to rush things and she seemed like the type of girl who didn't want to be rushed.

Now it turns out she left her grinder in my car and I added her on facebook and told her. She wished me a Happy Easter and told me to hang onto it until Monday (yesterday). Then strangely enough, later in the day I notice her facebook seems to be gone..hmmm...figured she deactivated it nbd...then she texts me yesterday morning telling me she wants to pick up her grinder, I tell her I will be in the city and ask her if she wants to pick me up from the train later (because my car was in the shop). She says maybe, but ends up ignoring my text when I tell her when I'll be arriving at the station...again nbd...then she tells me she will come over later yesterday night to pick it up...I tell her fine, but that it will have to be before 7 or after 830...again she ends up not coming...okkk...so this morning I get texts from her saying "sorry I was really busy yesterday, call me today and tell me when I can come pick it up" also I get another text shortly after "my cousin has great bud, if you want to buy some"...I ignore both texts for a few hours then hit her up noonish to see if she is around, she says she is going to the gym and I tell her to come over after... she says okay...and I have not heard from her since...what the F is this chick's deal? Is she too much of a stoner that she is always spaced out? Why not just come get ur stupid grinder and if you don't want to chill anymore just stop texting? I'm lost on this one... sorry its so long.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Try to talk about something other than her grinder. For ex. tease her about something else besides getting high. You havent really built attraction after she left your store. Dont think that the interaction you had at the store will be enough to want to make her meet you again.
 

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r0cky said:
Try to talk about something other than her grinder. For ex. tease her about something else besides getting high. You havent really built attraction after she left your store. Dont think that the interaction you had at the store will be enough to want to make her meet you again.

Yeah, but what about the attraction/rapport he built while driving around with her 3 hours, talking, flirting, and whatever else they were doing? Maybe you overlooked that part, but they did actually meet up and hang out. I think he built whatever rapport he was gonna build.

Beyond that, let's just chalk this up to normal female flakiness. I mean, if she REALLY wanted to hang, she would. No matter how busy or high you are, it's no big thing for a girl to invest an hour or two into a guy she's trying to get with. So, f**k it. Let her step up the plate. I wouldn't invest any more time in this one.
 

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Yea that's the thing I'm not investing time into this, I just don't understand why she keeps texting me to see what I'm doing/if she can come over to get her stupid grinder, but then ends up not coming...its just so weird considering she lives about 2 blocks away from me...why not pick up the grinder and stop talking to me if she doesn't want to chill w/ me??
 

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In10se said:
Yea that's the thing I'm not investing time into this, I just don't understand why she keeps texting me to see what I'm doing/if she can come over to get her stupid grinder, but then ends up not coming...its just so weird considering she lives about 2 blocks away from me...why not pick up the grinder and stop talking to me if she doesn't want to chill w/ me??

Haha.

Because she's a girl.

Don't waste your time trying to figure out the path of logic that leads up to a woman's decision. There is no path of logic. They just do sh!t.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alright, but when she texts me for the 7th time asking when she can pick up her grinder...I think I'm going to ignore the text and call her because when I first got her number she submitted to everything I suggested by phone...or should I just tell her I'm going to leave it in my mailbox and let her pick it up herself and cold shoulder completely?
 

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In10se said:
Alright, but when she texts me for the 7th time asking when she can pick up her grinder...I think I'm going to ignore the text and call her because when I first got her number she submitted to everything I suggested by phone...or should I just tell her I'm going to leave it in my mailbox and let her pick it up herself and cold shoulder completely?
Yea, tell her you'll leave it on your mailbox. Dont give her the cold shoulder, but at the same time dont be there for her every time she wants to contact you. Let a few texts go unanswered or wait til a few hours to t6ext her back. Everything that a girl does to you that shows low interest, do the same to her.
 

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So she texts me as expected today saying "she needs her grinder" I wait awhile and then I say "k come get it"...ends up not coming and texts me again about an hour ago "Do you want to smoke, I have no money to throw for bud, but if you want you can buy my grinder from me" ...my response "nah I have my own grinder, not trying to smoke right now" ...thing is I do want to see her/smoke with her but she seems like a druggie flake...hot as **** though...what should I do?
 

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Try this.

"Hey listen though. Instead of us playing phone tag and never seeing one another, come to my place at [time] on [day] and we'll smoke. If you don't show up, I just won a free grinder."
 

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Man this **** is incredibly stupid... I feel like this girl brought me back to AFC mode...she ends up suggesting that she wants to smoke, but has no money. She asks if I want to "buy her grinder" and then we can both pick up bud. I say no thanks I'm not trying to smoke right now. She says "okay call me if you want to hang out later" I wait an hour and call her and invite her to have a few beers in my hottub...she apologizes and says "I'm not the type of girl that takes half her clothes off in front of a guy she just met"...I respond "oh yea what about when you go to the beach?" She goes blah blah blah "totally different than a hot tub ...blah blah" I say alright no problem...haven't heard from her since...(that was last night)

Is this girl on heavy drugs or something? She showed HEAVY HEAVY interest in me and then went completely mental this past week. I still have her ****ing grinder and all I want to do is give it back to her and likely never talk to her again...grrrr going out tonight to find new broads
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Drop off her damn grinder at her place and say "YOU'RE WELCOME". Then just walk off and never talk to her again. Delete her number. It is the easiest way to avoid the AFC trap.
 
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