"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Subtle Hostility - Sign of Lingering Interest?

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I bumped into an ex of mine from a year ago over the weekend at a function. My sis (who is quite a looker) was in town and with me. I figured it might be decent to introduce them considering the ex could get into some jealous rage if she thought I was "with her". My sister and the ex had never met, so false impressions could have lead to a really uncomfortable situation. I knew what she was going to say before I even introduced her--something to the effect of: well, we know who got the looks in the family (in reference to my sis). The first words uttered from her mouth. I'm not a model, but no slouch either. Funny, she wasn't complaining about my looks too much when we were dating...

She made a couple of other little remarks later in the evening, and she purposely got flirtatious with someone in front of me. A group of us were headed out elsewhere later, and I didn't let it phase me in the mean time.

A buddy of mine (loose acquaintance of hers) said he thought she was probably acting up because she wasn't over me. It was a pretty intense relationship that lasted 2 months and I ended it a year ago. I tend to agree. If she wasn't interested, why would she even bother with the comments?

Any opinions here?

I'm dating two other girls right now, but it would be nice to have something in my back pocket.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I dumped her. She was pretty demanding and it was driving me nuts at the time. Long story short, but a year ago, I was pretty drained from everything, ended up getting sick (mono) after I dumped her and she was still playing sweet on me for a couple of months after. She came over to my house sobbing after I ended it. Not a pretty breakup--especially considering how short our relationship was (a couple of months).
 
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you dont want this one in your back pocket.

you dumped her for the reasons that you did and those reasons still remain.

she is currently playing games with you to make you jealous, flirting with someone in front of you.

you dont need her drama or high maintenance.
 
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LOL, our already dating 2 other girls and you want to put this thing in your back pocket?

Can I ask you why?

Why would you want to bring that thing back into your life. Are you a sucker for drama. She sounds like a drama queen. The world must revolve around her and her drama.

Don't waste your time over a girl you saw for only 2 months a year ago??wtf!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In weak moments I remember the good qualities of my ex's. In strong ones I remember why I dumped them.

Does she want *you* back -- or the gf status? Is it about you, or her ego?

You've done two things right: dumped, and didn't look back. Keep on truckin'.
 
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