"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Style is EVERYTHING

ketostix

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I was thinking you meant appearance by clothing/style/etc. Surface level bull****. It's not about the surface level stuff. She can sense it based on his behaviors. How he holds himself. Even if his dress is sloppy. It's the micro-behaviors that she picks up on without even realizing it.
OK yeah I meant his behavior, expressions, and basically nonverbals and body language. Most of this has to do with your mental mood and probably your mental makeup expressed by visual cues. My theory is women are maybe biological selecting on cues that indicate the guy has good genes/development in those areas. But I don't think that actually has to be the case. Just as long as the appearance is good, the same effect of attraction happens. A guy can be actually a mental defective and attract women. We hear of it all the time. Just as long as the apearance is good the women is attracted, so in a sense it is shallow. That's why I see it all as an act and acting.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's like an archetype. If you play the role of the cool, older man, then women will respond to that. Or the intelligent and geeky yet cool younger guy. If you look the role, women will respond, and that's what's happening here
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Ok, them's fightin' words, right?

Let me tell you guys something... For most of my life I have known that I was repulsive to girls, and for the life of me I couldn't figure out why.

I would get interested looks from literally close to zero girls. I knew that there had to be some kind of cosmic law at work here. I just had no other explanation.

Four weeks ago, I got new glasses, and the difference now is like night and day. Every time I go to the store, women look at me with interest, smile (this NEVER happend before), and look for excuses to chat with me. This has been litereally unheard of in my life until the new glasses.

Guess how old I am? 52, that's how old! Yes, for all these years I was repulsive to women, and now I am physically attracting them. LOTS of them. I think I have figured out the reason for the change.

First of all, I have always had dark circles under my eyes, and that gave me a bit of sickly, washed-out look. I suffer from Chrohn's disease, so the sickly look is real.

I have blondish-brown hair and brown eyes, and I always wore brownish glasses, with very light frames, or even the kind of frames that use nylon fishing line to hold them in place (no visible frame along sides & bottom).

The result was that all you could see was my slightly sickly look and the dark circles. My glasses had no style at all.

I decided to change that by getting bold, black frames that sort of fade to greenish from front to back. Not the stems, but the frames around the lenses. There is a nice, masculine design on the stems near where they meet the frames.

The boldness of the frames takes away from my dark circles, and also add a sense of style to my look.

As if by magic, this former complete reject is now turning female heads right & left. I just got back from the grocery store and two very pretty young women attempted to chat me up, and these were women who would have turned their backs on me instantly before the change.

Oh, BTW, I'm not one of those old-looking 52 year olds. People routinely guess me to be about 33 to 35, hence I get interest from all age groups.

What are we to learn from this? That actual looks, per se, do not matter, but a sense of style is everything.

I tell you guys, it doesn't matter how naturally ugly you are. If you just demonstrate a sense of style with clothing and glasses, that is ALL YOU NEED to physically attract women.

I wanted to take this subject out of the realm of the theoretical and relate my actual recent experience.

If a woman sees that you have a sense of style she will immediately overlook physical shortcomings. Bank this, boys, it's true.

Atom Smasher
Maybe you just did'nt notice girls looking at you cause your old glasses sucked.
 
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