stupid rookie mistake

[pyros]

I met this chick in my salsa class two weeks ago.
I noticed she was cheking me out before the lesson started, so while we danced I asked her name and some silly questions about salsa etc. Since she came to the class with a guy and he clearly did not like salsa, I told her:
me: you know, your bf is getting bored...
her: hes not my bf, he's just a friend....

I saw her one more time and since she stopped coming to the lessons I added her on fb a few days ago.
Today I talked to her on fb chat, asked her a couple of questions, had some laughs, she told me she's going on two months vacation this week, so I told her to meet me for a coffee once she's back, to what she replied:

her: well, I dont think my boyfriend will like it but... ok, I'll text you lol

here is where my mistake appears:

me: since you have a bf forget about it, text me once you're available

Now Im regreting my reply, and Im thinking that I should have just told her:
me:

I think I blew her off cause I basically told her to contact me once she does not have a bf anymore...stupid silly reply. She could have been interested in cheating on her bf, but I took it as a rejection too quickly...

Dont you agree?

 

[:-)]

she wasn't interested.

 

[Piers Nivens]

Lol it ended before ur stupid mistakes began

 

[Skyline]

There's no "mistake" here dude, well besides not grabbing the digits the day you met her. Your response was exactly what a Don Juan or a high value person would have said. On the bright side, since she is thinking of cheating on her boyfriend because he's probably being weak and needy, after she dumps him or whatever you will probably be the first person she'll turn to since you showed some dignity. I doubt that friend she brought will have any impact at all.

Just don't follow her boyfriends path.

 

[VladPatton]

If she would of wanted to cheat on her bf she would of shut her trap and not mentioned anything. But since she did, it was a soft rejection. For me, after a rejection it's a free-for-all. Who cares what you say, she isn't interested, so may as well have some fun. I would of deleted her after the "my boyfriend wouldn't like that" line lol. No reply, just a cursor flying to the Delete button.

 

[Piers Nivens]

There's no "mistake" here dude, well besides not grabbing the digits the day you met her. Your response was exactly what a Don Juan or a high value person would have said. On the bright side, since she is thinking of cheating on her boyfriend because he's probably being weak and needy, after she dumps him or whatever you will probably be the first person she'll turn to since you showed some dignity. I doubt that friend she brought will have any impact at all.

Just don't follow her boyfriends path.

Is this guy for real? Lmao stop spreading false hope dude

 

[3agle 3yes]

Just because a woman tells you she has a boyfriend, doesn't mean she has one. But, to be fair it looks like she's passing the responsibility (of her cheating) on to you ("I WILL have coffee with you but, as a warning I have a boyfriend, I WILL kiss you but, as a warning I have a boyfriend, I WILL f*ck you but...etc, etc.

Also, OP, not to sound patronising, but when you invite a girl out for coffee, that's precisely what you're doing...don't give her to impression that you're attracted to her. Some guys will say "but she already knows", but she DOESN'T. Inviting her for coffee ONLY means you 're interested, interest can dissappear in less than 5 minutes.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Not For Nothing Dude....

I met this chick in my salsa class two weeks ago.
I noticed she was cheking me out before the lesson started, so while we danced I asked her name and some silly questions about salsa etc. Since she came to the class with a guy and he clearly did not like salsa, I told her:
me: you know, your bf is getting bored...
her: hes not my bf, he's just a friend....

I saw her one more time and since she stopped coming to the lessons I added her on fb a few days ago.
Today I talked to her on fb chat, asked her a couple of questions, had some laughs, she told me she's going on two months vacation this week, so I told her to meet me for a coffee once she's back, to what she replied:

her: well, I dont think my boyfriend will like it but... ok, I'll text you lol

here is where my mistake appears:

me: since you have a bf forget about it, text me once you're available

Now Im regreting my reply, and Im thinking that I should have just told her:
me:

I think I blew her off cause I basically told her to contact me once she does not have a bf anymore...stupid silly reply. She could have been interested in cheating on her bf, but I took it as a rejection too quickly...

Dont you agree?

Considering that you lack the confidence go after chicks that are above average and you rarely if ever follow the advice that's given to you, why do you (not only,) waste the time of the members of this board, but yours also?

Seriously pyros, specialized or nuanced game isn't required to score 5's, 6's, and 7's you can get those kinda of as a matter of general principle if you step to enough women during the course of the week.