Okay, so last Friday night I met this girl at the bar. We talked for a bit between turns on a pool game. I got a really good vibe from her, and she seemed like a really awesome girl. I ended up leaving, and I got her number, and gave her mine. I wasn’t planning on calling her at all that weekend, but she sent me this text message the next day about how we should hang out. Having nothing to do that night, I figured sure, why not. I told her we’d get a cup a coffee and go from there. Coffee was a really good idea, because I got to really talk to her and get to know her. Things were going well and I recommended we watch a movie at her place. We did. We held hands through most of it, which was good. So I went in for the kiss… this is where things got weird. She was like “I dunno…I have only known you for a few hours, and would like to get to know you a little better before we move any further”. I thought for sure I had just got shot down hardcore, but she continued to hold my hand and be flirtatious. I left her house on a hug, and she seemed very interested in seeing me again soon. I was busy all week except for Tuesday night. She ended up having to finish some project that night and it didn’t happen. She said, “well maybe some other night this week?” I replied “ok, well just let me know”. Maybe I am totally over analyzing this, but it’s Thursday night and I have not heard from her since. She seemed very interested at first, wanting to hang out right away, but now that doesn’t seem to be the case. Granted, it has only been two days, and she works during the week so I dunno. How do you guys see this situation? Should I try to make plans with her for the weekend, or just wait for her call me?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
stupid question about interest level...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
I see like the balls been fumbled and either the interested side picks it up or the FORGET ABOUT IT side picks it up....it whatever you make it at this point in the game...try calling her it seemed like she wanted to be in a relationship "holding hands n sh*t" that's what couples do....I can tell you this if you go out with her again and don't kiss her than she's either prude,don't like you. or "want to get to know you more"
h2o
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based on what I've experienced with girls I've met at bars/clubs...they're sluts. So, if you're not used to picking up girls from bars/clubs you'd think she's a good girl who wants to take things slow? yeah right. She's a slut, and that was a sh*t test. No girls at clubs take things "slow" ...if they were good girls they wouldn't be at a bar. I don't there's any chance of you getting with her again. Just move on.
Hey Badmannaz...sorry to say this dude but you're way off, and maybe you shouldn't be giving advice. "holding hands" in this context is just kino...man, I hold hands with girls I've got with, and doesn't imply "relationship." just cause you hold hands does not mean you have to be a couple...it just means you're keeping the kino going...now holding hands in public is another story...
he won't and shouldn't go out with her again, it was sh*t test, end of story.
h2o
Banned
I wouldn't say that...but it is very rare to find a "good girl" who is willing to take things slow, hanging out at a bar...play pool with some guy and only a day later invite him over to her place for a movie, and hold hands with himOriginally posted by nishbuk
So basically, every single woman in North America is a slut?
I don't know...that's just like she was asking for sex.
I know what I said was a generalization, and I surely have limited experience compared to many others...but I think it's true...
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My point is that practically every girl and guy between the ages of 18-30 goes to bars. They can't all be sluts, and man*****s.
Now, if you take a girl home after meeting her at a bar, sure...she might be trolling for booty.
But that doesn't mean you can't meet worthwhile women at a club (Phone number, kiss close, etc.)
It also doesn't mean that a girl that has a ONS isn't a "good girl". There are plenty of women who get wild rarely, and are still good girls.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: stupid question about interest level...
you say i shouldn't give advice???:nono: :nono: :nono:
man your saying every girl at a bar is a slut...you don't know this chick...and I was under they impression that they were holding hands in and out of the movies...trust me holding hands can be good on his part...she probably still likes him...i mean all girls don't think like you man..wise up
you say i shouldn't give advice???:nono: :nono: :nono:
man your saying every girl at a bar is a slut...you don't know this chick...and I was under they impression that they were holding hands in and out of the movies...trust me holding hands can be good on his part...she probably still likes him...i mean all girls don't think like you man..wise up
h2o
Banned
Yeah, I'm not saying they're all sluts and man *****s. But, most guys I know...in fact, all my guy friends that I go to bars/clubs with go there only for drinking and to find a girl. So, yes, we're mostly man *****s...pretty much all the guys there are there for the same reason. Yes, it's a generalization, there are exceptions, but I think that's how it is for the majority.
As for the girls, I guess we have differing definitions of a good girl.
Let's assume the girl in the OP was indeed looking for an LTR by taking things slow. She wouldn't kiss him on a first "date" at her place.
In my opinion, a girl who looks for an LTR, and wouldn't kiss on a first "date" wouldn't invite the guy over for the first "date." That's probably going to happen on 2nd or 3rd date. Or maybe even later.
And for me...maybe I have high standards, but a good girl, to me, doesn't go out and get wild and ONS every now and then. To me, that's not a good girl, that's a slut.
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yeah, that's what I'm saying...especially after you say we should all pickup girls at church and weddings
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
h2o.....have faith my simple-minded friend....