"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stupid Oneitis at Work

DJ McBuster

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OK to begin I Fvcked this **** up with a girl. It happens, I know brothers. But I got to see her pretty as* everyday and she is fvcking with my mind. I am hung up on her real bad too. Usually when I get dissed I can walk away but see we work together. So I need to drop my bull*hit feeling for her fast. Any ideas?

P.S.: Screwing other woman, ignoring her, and treating her poorly have not worked out so far.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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xanderbaz

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DJ McBuster said:
P.S.: Screwing other woman, ignoring her, and treating her poorly have not worked out so far.
Then you either:
a) haven't been doing any of the above in the right manner; or
b) you should keep doing it.
 

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xanderbaz said:
Then you either:

b) you should keep doing it.
ditto, just cause a girl isnt responding the way you think she should does not mean its not working. Just ignore her azz and dont give her the time of day. If she corners you, make up excuses. Alot of the time when a girl likes a guy she works with, she always make sure she stands above the rest, by this I mean, she contacts you all the time, but covers it up with unimportant work related things. There is also a good sign she is an AW. We would have to know more about the situation to diagnose her. You need to know stuff like
1. Did her interest level in me suddenly surge
2. Did she have initial interest in me,
ect,ect,ect.. need more.
 

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Her is the whole Story:

This girl at work is horrible. She is so fine and she thinks I am hot, but my game was to foward for her and I killed it. Last time we talked she asked me if I was mad at her because she dissed me to have lunch with this other guy. I said No but I was and she knew that. So this really set me off. So later we had lunch and I told her that I could'nt just be her friend, that I did'nt care what she thought about me, and that I wanted her to ignore me. I also teased her lightly about her hair, clothes, and attitude. She told me she was weird and immature. And I told her she looked like she wanted my attention but when I gave it to her she did not want it anymore. I was hoping to peek her intrests and get her notice me. That part has worked but I want to get with her now and it is not going to happen.
 

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Dunno where it happened, but she's not into you.

One thing to bear in mind...if a girl is into you, she will NOT put herself down in front of you unless she has major self-esteem problems. Why WOULD she? She's sabotaging her chances with you!

She is calling herself "weird and immature" to 1) get you to stop liking her and 2) not make you feel bad/angry about it.

What do you mean, your "game was too forward"?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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