Stupid Mistakes

[triple_ultima]

So, last night I just got LJBFed by a girl I thought I was pretty good with.

Looking back though, I should've read the signs. Her IL had been waning, she wouldn't kino me much anymore (besides punches on the arm, which DO NOT count), she never called me.

Then we both went to a party on saturday. She didn't even come up to say hello to me or anything of the sort. Afterward I made the stupid mistake of calling her and confronting her about ignoring me. Though she apologized, I knew she thought I was being overbearing.

Last night we both went to a little social gathering being put on by our school. I noticed her dancing with another guy, and made the idiotic mistake of confronting her about it. Of course, she was weirded out, and by then everything had gone wrong.

So she called me afterward to give me a long, drawn out LJBF speech. I tried to make her get to the point quickly, but she refused and skirted the subject. Bytch.

I suppose in the end it's only my fault. I just don't understand how I could make those stupid mistakes when I knew better. I knew not to pull crap like that, yet I did it anyway. and now I have to live with the consequences. I feel like such an idiot.

 

[MusicMan]

first of all, yes, it was your fault. second, you have no reason to call her a bytch. third, snap out of it and move on. there are plenty of girls out there. just stop thinking about this particular girl and start dating other people. be distant and she'll soon start wondering what you're doing. you say you have a great girlfriend(in a cool, uninterested way), she gets jealous as hell and wants you back. its this simple. oh, and dont asume this last thing will always work out. if it does, then it is to your advantage

 

[triple_ultima]

Thanks man. I suppose I was just getting really discouraged because this girl was my first prospect in quite some time...and she was pretty damn hot too.

I can see now that it doesn't matter one bit. She isn't a bytch, she was just reacting the way women are wired to react. It was my fault.

In fact, I am very glad that this happened to me, because I learned so much from it.

 

[Salacious D]

Don't sweat it. A year from now, is this going to have any effect on you? Ten years?

The trick is in perception. This girl I'm after right now, I thought of her as a secondary target for most of the time I've known her--I was always into someone else I considered more attractive, and so for whatever reason that made it much easier for me to chat her up, make long eye contact, shove food in her face, etcetera. I didn't think she was perfect, and I still don't right now. But now, the difference is, the playing field has shifted a bit, and so she's my primary target--as such, it's more challenging for me to do anything around her at all. She seems interested, but I guess I don't know for certain until we're having sex...

Anyway...what's the moral of this as yet unfinished story? Diversify. Don't place all of your emotions on one girl, or one thing. Attack multiple targets, so if you lose one, you still have at least one more. Historically, relying on a single product as an export, like cotton for the Confederacy, was not the best move they could have taken. If they'd diversified, and found another product to hook the Europeans on, the war might have turned out differently. They tried withholding cotton from Britain and France, but they planned ahead for something like that, and had already begun cultivating new cotton crops in Northern Africa. There are several countries in the Middle East that are filthy rich off of oil, and only oil, Qatar, Bahrain, Kuwait. What's going to happen when we're not dependent on oil anymore? They're hooked on exporting it. Total collapse for their economies, because when the oil is worthless, the only thing they'll be able to export is sand. We as a country are depended on oil as well, if they withhold it from us absolutely, our economy would collapse as well (happened in the seventies). These are all the products of getting hooked on one thing, and not keeping options open. Stay diversified.