Heyy everyone, im kinda new to the forum, but ive been reading around A LOT, and im happy to sayy that i've learnt heaps. Ok now my problem is theres this girl im good friends with, and at one point i had onitis but i decided to get off my ass and do something about it, so ive been meeting new girls, so the girls no longer my oneitis, but still i wouldnt mind going out with her, But she always talks like shes not that interested, but at parties she always clingy, talking to me blah blah blah. What is upp with that geezz, what should i do i know im in the friendship zone with her but that doesnt stop her getting all touchy?? Like the other night she was pretending to be drunk (i can tell) to lean on me, hold my hand, etc. i dont have oneitis for her, i have no problems in just staying friends with her but if there could be a relationship here then yeah.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Stupid girl
- Thread starter Stoner
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AlbanianPimp
Banned
first of all, what the f is onietas?
you should just get her drunk at your place one night, smoke a few joints to get her laughing her ass off.
marijuana gets girls horny too.
then BANG the hell out of her
you should just get her drunk at your place one night, smoke a few joints to get her laughing her ass off.
marijuana gets girls horny too.
then BANG the hell out of her
one-itys is when you are crazy over one girl and irrational, some call it love, others call it a disease.Originally posted by AlbanianPimp
first of all, what the f is onietas?
you should just get her drunk at your place one night, smoke a few joints to get her laughing her ass off.
marijuana gets girls horny too.
then BANG the hell out of her
1- you are not over your one-itysOriginally posted by Stoner
Heyy everyone, im kinda new to the forum, but ive been reading around A LOT, and im happy to sayy that i've learnt heaps. Ok now my problem is theres this girl im good friends with, and at one point i had onitis but i decided to get off my ass and do something about it, so ive been meeting new girls, so the girls no longer my oneitis, but still i wouldnt mind going out with her, But she always talks like shes not that interested, but at parties she always clingy, talking to me blah blah blah. What is upp with that geezz, what should i do i know im in the friendship zone with her but that doesnt stop her getting all touchy?? Like the other night she was pretending to be drunk (i can tell) to lean on me, hold my hand, etc. i dont have oneitis for her, i have no problems in just staying friends with her but if there could be a relationship here then yeah.
2- if shes getting close to you- you get even closer
3- i believe you totally messed things up if you didnt bang her that night, tell us more details, so maybe you can learn and do better in a future situation similar to this
4- she coulda have been really hammered, in wich case not banging her is a good idea.
Re: Re: Stupid girl
yeh i was afraid of that lol!Originally posted by BLUEox117
1- you are not over your one-itys
Yehh that could be a possibility as well. i was sitting down with her, there were a few other people around us as well, and i know shes not drunk (i know shes not drunk because she was around me the whole time and she barely had anything to drink) but she starts leaning on me, and starts putting her arms around me, but i dunno coz earlier that dayy she was having problems with this guyy who shes not going out with?? but shes always having problems with him so its probably not that. As for me, in return i just sorta got cosy with her but that was about it i didnt make a move or anything.Originally posted by BLUEox117
3- i believe you totally messed things up if you didnt bang her that night, tell us more details, so maybe you can learn and do better in a future situation similar to this
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Re: Re: Re: Stupid girl
i usually initiate kino wit the chick so its hard to give u the BEST advice, but u gotta simply return the kino in there, start rubbin n ****, i bet u can get next time sum like this happpens.
well thats it right there make a move next time.Originally posted by Stoner
yeh i was afraid of that lol!
Yehh that could be a possibility as well. i was sitting down with her, there were a few other people around us as well, and i know shes not drunk (i know shes not drunk because she was around me the whole time and she barely had anything to drink) but she starts leaning on me, and starts putting her arms around me, but i dunno coz earlier that dayy she was having problems with this guyy who shes not going out with?? but shes always having problems with him so its probably not that. As for me, in return i just sorta got cosy with her but that was about it i didnt make a move or anything.
i usually initiate kino wit the chick so its hard to give u the BEST advice, but u gotta simply return the kino in there, start rubbin n ****, i bet u can get next time sum like this happpens.
That_Guy49
Don Juan
just play your cards right...never show too much attention,.,..be the pursued and not the pursuer man....and overall when at a party and she's being clingy and smoochie and sh*t, straight up get sexual with her, subtly of course.. Build sexual tension..eg;
long eye contact, smiling, kino, and if she's being receptive, kiss her. Simple dude, if she backs away from your advances, find another girl to talk to.
long eye contact, smiling, kino, and if she's being receptive, kiss her. Simple dude, if she backs away from your advances, find another girl to talk to.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
he got it on the money
didi t occur to you that she "pretended" so she would have an excuse if she was rejected?
didi t occur to you that she "pretended" so she would have an excuse if she was rejected?
Why didnt i think of that? yeah that sounds like something this girl would do.Originally posted by Fenderules
didi t occur to you that she "pretended" so she would have an excuse if she was rejected?
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
your forgetting. Girls have a lot more "social" figures to fit.
A. She does not want to be seen as a slut and has an excuse
B. Society says the man hits on the girl, the man asks out the girl, the man is in control, so when she wants a guy, she is very very shy and thus has to use a means to make it easier for her
A. She does not want to be seen as a slut and has an excuse
B. Society says the man hits on the girl, the man asks out the girl, the man is in control, so when she wants a guy, she is very very shy and thus has to use a means to make it easier for her
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.