Stupid feelings for ex gf

[NSX-R]

Last year in my vacation went into a relationship with a chick i met there. I stayed for a month and we were having sex at least 4 times per week. Awesome is not enough to describe it.
Anyway i came back to my place and she to hers and our relationship had become LDR. We had it for a month or so and the I stopped it cause it was pointless.

Fast forward a year and I started again having feelings for her for absolutely no reason. I mean this year i went at least with 14 women and also I have not heard anything from this chick more than 6 months. Wtf brain.
Sometimes i find myself stalking her Inst profile.

I wanted to take this off my chest. Any help would be appreciated.

 

[fastlife]

Just keep in mind that it's not the girl you miss--you only knew her for a month, a month of endorphins and sex and potential--it's the illusion. Since it's an illusion that never got tested against reality, it's still perfect. But it's not real. You didn't get a chance to get to know this girl--you didn't get to know who she was when she was comfortable and a little bit tired of you and on her period; or who she was when bills had to be paid or you were laid off or any of that.

Enjoy it for what it was--an awesome memory. If you have any creative outlets, she's great material for that. Be grateful that you have a memory that didn't get tarnished by reality; and know that if you ever got back up with this girl you'd destroy that perfection that only exists and ever existed in your mind. No need to be embarrassed or ashamed or any of that, just grateful (and realistic with yourself when it counts ).

 

[NSX-R]

Just keep in mind that it's not the girl you miss--you only knew her for a month, a month of endorphins and sex and potential--it's the illusion. Since it's an illusion that never got tested against reality, it's still perfect. But it's not real. You didn't get a chance to get to know this girl--you didn't get to know who she was when she was comfortable and a little bit tired of you and on her period; or who she was when bills had to be paid or you were laid off or any of that.

Enjoy it for what it was--an awesome memory. If you have any creative outlets, she's great material for that. Be grateful that you have a memory that didn't get tarnished by reality; and know that if you ever got back up with this girl you'd destroy that perfection that only exists and ever existed in your mind. No need to be embarrassed or ashamed or any of that, just grateful (and realistic with yourself when it counts ).

Thanks dude. I absolutely agree with you. I guess I'm not focused enough on my business.

 

[mahser]

Just keep in mind that it's not the girl you miss--you only knew her for a month, a month of endorphins and sex and potential--it's the illusion. Since it's an illusion that never got tested against reality, it's still perfect. But it's not real. You didn't get a chance to get to know this girl--you didn't get to know who she was when she was comfortable and a little bit tired of you and on her period; or who she was when bills had to be paid or you were laid off or any of that.

Enjoy it for what it was--an awesome memory. If you have any creative outlets, she's great material for that. Be grateful that you have a memory that didn't get tarnished by reality; and know that if you ever got back up with this girl you'd destroy that perfection that only exists and ever existed in your mind. No need to be embarrassed or ashamed or any of that, just grateful (and realistic with yourself when it counts ).

I was in a similar situation like OP and I wish somebody told me those words at that time, I had to figure it out myself.

OP I think that as long as you're spinning the plates (which you are doing) and there's no wrong behavior or actions, I don't see any problem with remembering or missing her, as @fastlife mentioned, an awesome memory that gives you a smile when remembered

Good luck !

 

[Glumix]

14 women in a year? That's my 36 years life count man and probably more than 75% of the population!
You are a f-cking perfectionist. Stop that now. It kills your life. Be more grateful for what you have.

 

[NSX-R]

14 women in a year? That's my 36 years life count man and probably more than 75% of the population!
You are a f-cking perfectionist. Stop that now. It kills your life. Be more grateful for what you have.

I'm a solid 8,5 out of 10 . Once I found about the dj bible I couldn't wait to use all the techniques i had learned. As soon as I went out i had a relationship. The first relationship i had was with the chick I mentioned. It went till January. Till summer i had banged 4 chicks, some were only ONS . In the summer break i was at the top of my game . Every week i was banging almost a different chick. Since September i have banged only 1 girl for a couple of times because lot of work.
My plan is to have as many chicks as possible for the next 10 years.