Study Date

[Kerensky]

Hey guys,

I'm going to set up a study session just me and this girl. We're going to study for APs and stuff, and maybe catch a bite to eat or something to hang out after wards. Just wondering how I should approach this. I was thinking:

"Hey exams are coming up. Let's get together sometime to study."

I'm a smart guy and she's a really smart girl so I benefit from this no matter what cuz I do better on the test. Good idea? I think this is a good idea. Gimme some feedback on what you guys pulled and recommend whether or not I should do this.

 

[Layla]

Hey,

I study with girls pretty often. I'd say first start talking to her about tests and your day, and then lead it into you asking her if she'd like to study and grab a bite to eat.

Thats pretty much it.

 

[sybertiger]

mmmm, I don't know. Take it if you figure it's your only in and you have the free time. Personally I don't like it because you are associating yourself with a really boring activity.

Also, I wouldn't if I actually needed to get the work done. ..

 

[Brother_Rapp]

Fine. Also tell her how what you're studing will help you in your career. Try to make it a field that she may have interest in or respect. Even if you have to lie. Teachers, doctors counselers are people who give of themselves. Police and military are those that protect the innocent. Construction workers are those who build building for commerce or homes for families.

 

[Kerensky]

I'm going to a top 10 university and med school. Everyone knows it. Ranked top 5 in my school. I'm set with that image stuff.

I think I will walk with her one day and stay bringing up exams. If she starts complaining aobut not knowing anything (she does this alot...but she's smart as hell), I will say whatI had up there varied a little.

Then she will accept and we'll get the studying done. I really wanna get the studying done no joke.

 

[DJStudent]

Not quite sure where brother rhapp is going there but to answer your question. This really isn't hard. Just ask her when exams are and if she can help you study.
She'll say yes and just tell her when and where.

When you do study together, you should keep a conversation going. To be honest I never get any studing done when I'm with other people. If i'm studying with a girl I like, I'll probably just flirt the 4 hours that I'm there.

 

[Kerensky]

I'm going to actually study and we'll do practice tests and stuff. Seriously, I'm not one to waste my nor other people's time. Plus, if this helps us, there will be future study sessions too.

Damn I dunno why I titled this study date. I meant study session.

 

[RoeCyris]

Originally posted by Kerensky
I'm going to actually study and we'll do practice tests and stuff. Seriously, I'm not one to waste my nor other people's time. Plus, if this helps us, there will be future study sessions too.

Damn I dunno why I titled this study date. I meant study session.

So wait... making out or having fun would be a waste of time? You need to next that way of thinking. You need to say that every second she is with YOU is for her benefit - even if your sleeping.

And you sound geeked about "future study sessions." Dude, no. You should be thinking "if this goes well, there will be my way in to a date." If you both do well, you should say "lets celebrate! im going to take you out to this restaurant i really like, whats a good night this week?" And if she does not well say "oh i feel bad that i couldnt help you. Let me take you out to this really good restaurant, what night are you free for me?" Just to note, i like to try and say "free for me" so she knows who she is there for. Its kind of subtle but its good to establish that in her mind weither she knows it or not.

Done and done.

 

[omizzi]

talk to her and make a joke heres one:
why is 8 scared of 7?
I don't know why?
because 789 hahaha.... (seve ate nine, get it?)
then you hold her hand and tell her a pick up line like this one:
"that extra weight looks good on you"
after the pick up line, tell her u love her....
"I love you"
then, trip on purpose and don't forget to extend your arms to develop kino when you accidentally touch her ankle
then tell her you wanna study w/ her b/c you love her


simple, right?

 

[Kerensky]

Originally posted by RoeCyris
So wait... making out or having fun would be a waste of time? You need to next that way of thinking. You need to say that every second she is with YOU is for her benefit - even if your sleeping.

And you sound geeked about "future study sessions." Dude, no. You should be thinking "if this goes well, there will be my way in to a date." If you both do well, you should say "lets celebrate! im going to take you out to this restaurant i really like, whats a good night this week?" And if she does not well say "oh i feel bad that i couldnt help you. Let me take you out to this really good restaurant, what night are you free for me?" Just to note, i like to try and say "free for me" so she knows who she is there for. Its kind of subtle but its good to establish that in her mind weither she knows it or not.

Done and done.

Good one. I think I just might do this. Did I mention she has a bf? Actually, I'm not sure if they're still together, but I'm pretty sure they are. Also, did I mention that I can't drive?

 

[DJStudent]

Lol a lot of road blocks there buddy. It's hard to be "doing your thing" when you need help from other people.

To be honest, her having a bf doesn't mean anything. If she doesn't refuse your advances then it's up to her. If she likes you. Main thing is that you gotta not let the idea that she has a bf enter your mind. You gotta think, she's CHOOSING to go out with me she's CHOOSING to have fun with me. Also keeping in mind that you're LETTING her spend time with you and you're LETTING her have fun with you. So it's a mutal agreement on both ends.

 

[Kerensky]

Well, I asked her today. She said sometimes she is better off working alone. I'm not going to take it personally, but I'm going to next her now.

 

[Kerensky]

Actually, she said, "maybe...sometimes I'm better off working alone."

That is probably ******** for, "no."

So I'm going to next like I said. Fuk I don't have time to wait for anyone. I guess this would be my first official 'rejection'. I need to get used to it. Thanks for your help DJs.

 

[Chemistry]

I've grabbed lunch with so many girls on the study tip, lol...

Just find that common ground you've got, if its that same piece of coursework, exam or whatever... then turn it into lunch break etc etc

End of the day, bet her reply was genuine a lot of people like studying alone... and if she is hooked up and saw your offer as a chance for study only then she's not going to bite... its not so much a rejection, but the fact that she's off the market at the minute... but I really don't know what your rapport is like with this girl at the minute... if you've gone up to a girl who you've not talked to, nor smiled at all year so there's nothin at all between you then you're not going to have any success on arranging any kind of thing which is simply the two of you... you will generally have to had put in work beforehand

 

[tigre]

"talk to her and make a joke heres one:
why is 8 scared of 7?
I don't know why?
because 789 hahaha.... (seve ate nine, get it?)
then you hold her hand and tell her a pick up line like this one:
"that extra weight looks good on you"
after the pick up line, tell her u love her....
"I love you"
then, trip on purpose and don't forget to extend your arms to develop kino when you accidentally touch her ankle
then tell her you wanna study w/ her b/c you love her


simple, right?"
- I hope youre not being serious