Study Budy Problems .....

[JohnChops]

So I have this girl who helps me study for physics, amazing at teaching it to me in easy terms. Now I went and fvcked it up ... I asked her to go see a movie and she flaked out on me. I didn't really care at all because I went to the movies with friends instead. But now I feel like its awkward between me.and her. Why would it be awkward? All I want from her is physics ... her knowledge on physics. I had an intent maybe to hangout with her and fvck her but I.don't care about that anymore. I just need it to not be awkward and for her to not flake out on STUDY sessions. Any input ?

 

[ARrocket]

I don't think you have a real problem until she actually makes it seem like she's gonna flake (or does flake) on study sessions.

If that happens, abandon all DJ skills and be upfront; you hope things won't be awkward, and you REALLY appreciate her help as a physics tutor, and would be glad to have it.

 

[JohnChops]

I don't think you have a real problem until she actually makes it seem like she's gonna flake (or does flake) on study sessions.

If that happens, abandon all DJ skills and be upfront; you hope things won't be awkward, and you REALLY appreciate her help as a physics tutor, and would be glad to have it.

She said Thursday, tomorrow,.so hopefully all goes well. I was just freaking out cause I seriously do not want to jeporidize my.physics grade because of some guy girl dynamic. Thanks AR good.advice,.rep to you

 

[sighsigh]

Why would she flake on you? Did she have a low IL when you asked her out?

If you don't want to make it awkward then make it seem like it's not a big deal. The next time you see her just jokingly say "hey, what happened? I couldn't find you so I went with some friends instead." She'll make up some excuse and you'll be like "alright, it's cool, no biggie." And then don't mention the incident again.

Remember that it is you who sets the tone of the interaction.

 

[VladPatton]

Just move forward with the tutoring and don't bring it up.

 

[Hustlaz Ambition]

I got the impression you escalated during the study session. Put hand somewhere on her->eye contact->kiss->****. But I'm guessing her IL was not high enough anyway to take it to that level.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I make passes at girls like that all the time. I used to feel a little embarrassed after if she passed on my offer but now I don't really care. Either way you win, if she is not interested in you then you have the peace of mind in knowing that you tried and that this one just has different interests in men.

I would WAY rather deal with things this way rather than losing sleep over having never tried and thinking I missed a good opportunity.

Anyways after a girl knows you are interested and she declined now the balls in her court. All you have to worry about is being the best man you can be and maybe she will come around later. When you make a pass at a girl If you do it right it can be very complimentary for her. It can actually be a good thing, she will start to see you in a different light. If you impress her she may have a change of heart.

 

[JohnChops]

I got the impression you escalated during the study session. Put hand somewhere on her->eye contact->kiss->****. But I'm guessing her IL was not high enough anyway to take it to that level.

Nope, didnt escalate during a study sesh. Whatever just not gonna care, its easier.

 

[JohnChops]

Just an update all is well. Learned 3 chapters of physics for my exam.with her and.it wasn't awkward. She even offered to help me Monday yay science ! And so suave

 

[Chamber36]

I just asked out my lab partner and got rejected about 3 hours ago.

Things did get a little awkward. I want her to know I am not gonna chase her anymore and that it's all good.

I feel like if I don't clear this up with her, studying with her will be sh!tty because we can't flirt anymore. I figure if I tell her that I don't take her rejection the wrong way, she would realise I'm indifferent and things would be cool again.

My roommate says I should just not bring it up though, as some of you have already told the OP.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Why do you think it's so bad to make a pass at a girl man!? It's just a very sincere way of telling her she's a great gal. Don't sweat it. Rejection does not mean there's something wrong with you. She just wants something different. Theres lots of women that are married out there that I would not touch with a 10' pole. She was great for someone else, but just not what i'm looking for. Thats it.

 

[Chamber36]

Why do you think it's so bad to make a pass at a girl man!? It's just a very sincere way of telling her she's a great gal. Don't sweat it. Rejection does not mean there's something wrong with you. She just wants something different. Theres lots of women that are married out there that I would not touch with a 10' pole. She was great for someone else, but just not what i'm looking for. Thats it.

I don't think it's bad to make a pass. I also don't think there's something wrong with me. I just didn't ask her out boldly/smoothly enough. The approach was off.

I just want our interactions to be back to normal. Before, there was an air of mystery. Now she's the chased, and I'm the chaser. I wanna flip the script by telling her that I don't care about rejection.

That's the problem with women. They feel guys are chasing them after they reject the dude. I am not gonna tho.