"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Studied the bible, but getting nervous

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Well after 3 ugly gf's over the past 3 years I have a date with a down to earth good looking nice girl. Its tomorrow night and I'm taking her out for drinks in a trendy part of town.

Girls have causually told me im cute/good looking and could have done a lot better then my ex's. Now finally im being told shes the kind of girl i should have been dating all along.

I'm getting a little nervous. I got the date so that should count for something right? Maybe im putting too much on this. Those AFC feelings of "do i deserve her" are creeping in the back of my mind.

I can usually act myself again if i just picture her as one of my ex's.

But any last minute tips?

Edit - I'll post the update of how it went
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Congrats, man. I do have a tip: talk to more girls, during the day, on the way to the date, you name it. Now that you got started, go with the roll. You probably don't want to get oneitis just now.

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Gonzalo said:
Congrats, man. I do have a tip: talk to more girls, during the day, on the way to the date, you name it. Now that you got started, go with the roll. You probably don't want to get oneitis just now.

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Gonzalo is offering you pure gold here, the roll is what you need. Talk to the waitress, bartender, whatever. Keep in mind you can get a date with many other girls.
 
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pretend she's ugly and fat and u'll be fine
 
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May sound sexist

I know that what I am about to say is sexiest but think about it this way and it make life alot easier.

You will have to be sexiest. Thats what I do.

I usually think about women as inferior to men, and that the only reason I am interested in them is their body.

Since there mind is based on feelings and not strong rationalization they are inferior and of no use to this world except those women who are strong and independent that make it up to the corporate ladder.

Every othere women is lost and is confused and men think straight and dont have probelms since they dont change their minds based on feelings and we have the best weapon, its logic. We have logic and they dont have as much or they dont use it or listen to it as much

all this evidence makes me feel that men are much getter than women and in more detail that since I am a man that I, ME, that I am so much better than any women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This is going to sound really lame, but it works for me.

In situations where I start to feel nervous, I pretend like I am inside a computer simulation, like in The Matrix. I tell myself this isn't real, and that way I can ignore my surroundings because they are "fake". All of the people around me lose importance, because they are just part of the simulation. This keeps me focused on what I am doing, keeping me away from thinking like an AFC.

Of course this advice should be taken very loosely, but I find it helps overcome nervousness and anxiety, especially since I am a gamer at heart.
 
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Well guys... It went pretty good.

We went for gelati... walked downtown for a bit and then went to a lounge for a drink.

There was the occasional ackward silence but i did good. She definetly showed interest in meeting up again soon. So heres to getting the women i should be:up:
 
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Just a little update.. its been a month since that first date.

Shes now my gf and things are great. Even though its just the first month.

Its pretty even I'd say. More so her calling me. But me making all the plans.
She loves the fact that we'll go out and she doesnt have to decide what we're doing.

Thanks to all for the advice...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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baz said:
Just a little update.. its been a month since that first date.

Shes now my gf and things are great. Even though its just the first month.

Its pretty even I'd say. More so her calling me. But me making all the plans.
She loves the fact that we'll go out and she doesnt have to decide what we're doing.

Thanks to all for the advice...
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DJ Success story. Glad your happy mate :woo:


Sarge On!
 
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Big Update:

I know I'm digging up an ancient post of mine. But I'd just like to thank everyone of you for posting your tips and storys.

Anyways I've been living with the girl mentioned above for 3 years now and last year I proposed to her:). I couldnt ask for anything more in a partner and this Feb we are getting married on the beach in Mexico.

Already talking about starting a family and we couldnt be happier!

Thanks again everyone, but I won't be needing this forum anymore :)

baz
 
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I hope he doesn't come update this post again a year later...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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baz said:
Big Update:

I know I'm digging up an ancient post of mine. But I'd just like to thank everyone of you for posting your tips and storys.

Anyways I've been living with the girl mentioned above for 3 years now and last year I proposed to her:). I couldnt ask for anything more in a partner and this Feb we are getting married on the beach in Mexico.

Already talking about starting a family and we couldnt be happier!

Thanks again everyone, but I won't be needing this forum anymore :)

baz
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Keep in mind the possibility that she may have a strange ( but quite common) reaction to eating wedding cake,
Some of the signs and symptoms which may appear in the following weeks or months are - a loss of libido, a sudden tendency to weight gain, cravings for ice cream, a tendency to nag and whine, a demanding even overbearing manner, a desire to spend more time with her mother, frequently criticizing your clothes, your eating habits and your friends and so on...

Should one or more of these behaviors emerge in her the first year of your marriage , log on and post here without delay.

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jophil call me naive, but what does that behaviour mean? i thote that was just normal.
 
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Keep in mind the possibility that she may have a strange ( but quite common) reaction to eating wedding cake,
Some of the signs and symptoms which may appear in the following weeks or months are - a loss of libido, a sudden tendency to weight gain, cravings for ice cream, a tendency to nag and whine, a demanding even overbearing manner, a desire to spend more time with her mother, frequently criticizing your clothes, your eating habits and your friends and so on...

Should one or more of these behaviors emerge in her the first year of your marriage , log on and post here without delay.

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You forgot the one where they suddenly desire to cut their hair short because it's too much work to keep it long... right.
 
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Great story! If however she begins to fart in your presence without thinking anything of it, get back here asap......
 
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Great ending (or must I say beginning). Congrats
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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