Stuck

[Legend]

I'm turning here for some advice....

I dated this girl for about a year and everything was pretty good and i always felt that things could be a little better. Well to make a long story short me and this girl stopped talking and are no longer a part of each others lives.

The thing is she has contacted me twice since we have stopped taking. Its been like a month and a half......hell i wish i could just talk to her or even see her but my pride is to high. She cheated on me and i gave her a choice. She did'nt choose me....she let me go....she said she was sorry for acting stupid and missing me about a month later. I never called her back and dont plain on calling her back.

I deserve better then what she gave me...but something must be wrong with me if i do miss her....i miss the way she smiled the way she touched me, the way she looks, the way she teased me......

Do i put my pride on the shelf and call her to see how she has been...or should i continue to move on with my life without her. I just want to do the right thing....

by no means and i an ugly person that cant get other girls.....i have chances since my x...and have'nt taken them. I just cant picture myself doing other chicks.

This girl put a knife into my back and i have done a good job by totally cutting her off and not giving her a second more of me.

Its just so hard to throw someone away when you wanted them so bad.

Any advice welcomed......

 

[matius]

Do i put my pride on the shelf and call her to see how she has been...or should i continue to move on with my life without her. I just want to do the right thing....

Run for your life!!!!!

 

[matius]

If I could only go back and change the way I acted with a girl like that. Leave and don't look back - let her know that you are much bigger than her...she'll think back about what a ***** she was. Go find another girl.

The thoughts of lust disappear eventually and you no longer care. The quicker you find a new girl the quicker you will forget. Or get lost in some work or somebody...know what I mean?

 

[Walden]

Dude I hate to say it but the right thing in this situation is to find ten other women.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Walden
Dude I hate to say it but the right thing in this situation is to find ten other women.

Probably true...they all smile and touch like that.

Seriously, you could let her come back to you and use her for sex/company/whatever while you are DJing other girls who WOULD make good girlfriends.

You have to understand, though, that NOTHING you can do will make this girl your ideal mate, though. It'll never, EVER be like it "used to be." She cheated on you and she disrespected you. If you do ANYTHING with her, it should only be as long as it is to your COMPLETE advantage. At the first sign of trouble, BAIL! If she IS serious about wanting you back, she'll be willing to endure the trial you put her through.

Personally, though, I don't think you're in control of your emotions with this one. She's like heroin, and you're going through withdrawl. Hurts, doesn't it?

Move on, dude. You're stronger than that. Don't go back because you're addicted to her smile.

 

[matius]

If you do ANYTHING with her, it should only be as long as it is to your COMPLETE advantage. At the first sign of trouble, BAIL!

No, this gives him enough to give it a go. Move on. There is nothing else there.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by matius
No, this gives him enough to give it a go. Move on. There is nothing else there.

Probably right. I only said it on the off-chance that he's strong enough to walk away, but it doesn't sound like he is right now.

NEXT.