"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bonafide

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fellas I need some help here

the situation is

this girl sends me a friend request on my myspace page, shes from my town and shes about HB9 or 8... im loving it so far. So I message her and we're talking...shes extremely high status I mean shes modeling, singer, and we share alot of common interests. shes got tons of guys on her page just sucking up to her like wusses.. I hit her with a few light negs and she eats it up...n we joke slightly then I tell her im a music producer (which I am) and she replies "I sing blah blah blah" and she asks me for my name and number after we have already introduced ourselves by names I kind of just ignored it the actual text was

her: i do music 2 i rap n sing...wats ya name n numba

my reply: You rap n sing? haha nice, I'm a music producer...

should I have given her my #?

and where should I go from here...now I dont want step by step but I mean did I already **** up? I think I caught oneitis


maybe she took that as rejection?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Johnny_Kage

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Dude, she's trying to get into the music business and right off the bat, you tell her you're a producer. She wants your number for networking, not for sex (although, you might be able to get her to **** you for a record deal....not sure if you wanna go that route though ;)).

Next time, don't try to impress the girl with your job status (if she's in the music industry, don't tell her that you're in the music industry until you ****ed her already.....otherwise, she might try to use you to further her career).
 

Bonafide

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Johnny_Kage said:
Dude, she's trying to get into the music business and right off the bat, you tell her you're a producer. She wants your number for networking, not for sex (although, you might be able to get her to **** you for a record deal....not sure if you wanna go that route though ;)).

Next time, don't try to impress the girl with your job status (if she's in the music industry, don't tell her that you're in the music industry until you ****ed her already.....otherwise, she might try to use you to further her career).
Wasn't trying to impress, I was just trying to find some common ground. We were actually talking about modeling when I told her I was more focusing on music than modeling and then she brought up her interest in music and I told her what I do with music.
 

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Dude, I AM a Music Producer / Engineer for a living.

This does not work ...ever.

She wants attention, attention, and attention ...oh... did I mention attention?

My suggestion is to leave business at the door and approach as a whole person.
You don't want the type of relationship a "bartering" situation creates AND if you do trade professional time and attention for a "hook-up" , when the quickly is over she'll still expect pay-out.

Meet her for coffee... talk as little about her "blooming career being adored by millions of men" as possible... then see if still want anything.
 
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