"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i am a 25 year old divorced guy, still rebounding i call it. but i met a girl have had lots and lots of great sex, and though that sex was all it would be, but now shes leaving things at my apartment, getting pretty jelous, calling everyday, and the more i get to know her the more i want to run but dont want to be a jerk about it. cause i love the sex with her. its moving fast on her part and standing still on mine, we both told each other we dont want to be bf/ gf, dont want a relationship, or remarrage anything. so why is she falling in love and how can i get out of this one not looking like the bad one or is it going to half to be that way. any advice please help.:cuss:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Climax

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hmmmm............

singleagain: I think that what you need to do is sit her down, and have a little chat with her.... say things like "okay look, I feel that you are becoming way too attached to me... I thought we agreed to not be bf/gf etc.. So why are you acting like you want us to be more than just friends with benefits? You do things like leaving things at my apartment, getting pretty jealous when I bring other women up, calling everyday... *pause for a few seconds* ... What’s going on <her name> ?" *wait for response*

Any type of relationship, be it a friendship, friends with benefits, family, etc, Communication is vital... Without it any relationship is bound to fail. And sometimes being blunt about things is what needs to be done.... And its not like you will be hurting her of coming off as a jerk etc if you say this to her... All you will be doing is getting her to tell you whets going on in her head/heart... And then if she really DOES want more than just being friends with benefits, then as much as it might not be something you want to tell her you will need to tell her something along the lines of "Look, there was a time where I DID love you, and there was a time where I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you and only you, but that changed, and you know that, and I cant just make myself feel the same way about you... I just cant... So you need to decide, either you will accept what we are now and not hope or want anything MORE, or we will need to stop seeing each other altogether"

This way, if she does want more, you will go your own separate ways and she wont have to get even more hurt in the future. If you really do care about her and don’t want to be a jerk to her and not only care about yourself and your d!ck, then you will be willing to sacrifice the sexual pleasure so that she wont get more hurt in the future... Though she probably WILL deny wanting more, what she feels for u will catch up to her.. and when it does, she WILL admit it.. and when she does, is when you will need to tell her that you two cannot see each other again.

There are plenty of women out there, you don’t need to hold on to this ONE woman, especially given your past with her.

Anyways, I hope you make the right decisions and find love again in the future.... Because love is so much better than sex, and you know it as well as I do;) Get yourself out of the sticky situations, and find yourself a comfortable, more fulfilling relationship with a girl you actually love and care for.


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thank you for your responce, one of the problems with this one is ive only known her for 3 weeks, and its only when she drives to my town for the night and partial morning then shes gone again, but she comes back the next or same day saying she misses me. i guess i am a little worried that she might become extreme or psycho not to much but a little, and i really dont want to hurt her. im not looking for love right now or a girlfriend im just out haveing fun again being single. i dont know still undecided what im going to do. but i thank you for your good advice.
 

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Well if you know this girl for only 3 weeks, and you are not looking for a relationship with her and you just want to fool around with her, then thats fine, but let her know that.... Tell her that you dont want to be in a relationship anytime soon and that you are happy with things as they are at the moment, where the two of you are just fooling around and having fun... Tell her that You came out of a serious relationship and you arent ready to fall in love again.... She should understand:)

Anyways, hope everything works out well for you;)


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Only known her for 3 weeks eh and getting some booty? I hope you learn from this and interview women for a couple dates before jumping in the sex part. Women seem to equate sex with love and if you're looking for the sex part while she's looking for another part then you may think "Well it's her fault if she keeps going" Nah dude, just cut it quick - 5-15 min of sex is not worth 5-15 days of drama.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yeah talked to her last night on the phone, told her i had plans with the guys, she completely laid the guilt trip. i told her about friends part, and she must have insecurities because she didnt take that good. but yet she agreed about it. she wants to visist again this friday but im ready to end it. yes warlord i will definetally have to interview them better, i thought it was mutually just sex thats what we told each other. oh well i guess time to let her go, i need some advice though i dont want to just blow her off hard i think she might become a little obsessive or a little to upset if you know what im saying. i need to be smooth about this one. any ideas.
 
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