Stuck with a girl...

[War Against Betaism]

So there's this at best HB5 that I used to talk to (near the beginning of my whole transformation when I worked with what I had) that is really digging me right now. I don't drive for various reasons and she offered to pick me up so I can hang out with my friends (she doesn't know any of my friends). So afterwards when we hang out she somehow gets lost and ends up like 3 cities away from where I live and we just hang out. I absolutely don't want to get with her, all I wanted was a ride. I even implied I just wanted to be friends saying something along the lines of "Yeah you're a cool friend to have" and I even talked about the past girls I have been with to turn her off. Didn't work and now she keeps on texting me even though I deliberately try to kill the conversation with one liners. I know about the whole chase thing, the more I run the faster they chase. I know, people are going to tell me to ignore her, but she's my solution to my ride problems. I still want to be her friend, though she doesn't share the same ideals.

And before anyone tells me to get my license, I can't because I'm an immigrant and don't have the specific requirements to process through all that trouble.

 

[War Against Betaism]

I don't feel bad for her, she's cool sometimes but she gets on my nerves when she keeps on texting me when I don't want to (I actually did ignore her texts today, she keeps on texting me even more why I'm not texting her). Though I really don't have a lot of leverage here, living in a house when you don't go to school and don't work is the most boring sh1t ever and most of my friends live like 20 minutes away from me, driving distance and they usually stay in that area so often I just stay home. She's actually the closest person to me that can give me a ride.

I guess I didn't make my question clear enough here...how do I make her my friend without getting close to her while still being able to get rides from her? Basically, yes I do want to use her...not in that way and I never want to, her breath smells.

 

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To be honest I don't even know why I made this topic, not like this was the first time I ever encountered something like this...as you can tell by my posts, I am a very bored man that really has nothing better to do when he is home.

It's a lost cause now, she thinks I'm a player and doesn't want to talk to me anymore...I know she's going to come back though, she's already came back like 3 times in the past.

 

[pg_lost]

Ok so let me get this straight. You don`t work, dont go to school, and want a not so hot girl so she can give you a ride to see your friends who dont bother travelling to where you are ever to hang out with you. You sound like a loser, nothing close to what this site likes to term DJ. I found this site back in HS, and lost it for a while, but never in my time have I come across someone so clueless. I dont think women is your problem, you need to grow the Fvck up.

 

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First off you don't even know my situation, I'm an immigrant so I find your ignorant claims very insulting. I'll be very open about this, I'm constantly arguing with my mom to get our papers fixed. My friends still pick me up because they understand my situation, the thing is I'm too far and with gas prices so high, often times I'm not able to offer gas money and I tell them I'll just stay home. Sometimes when I'm home and my friends are all hanging out, I cry to myself that I can't drive or work or go to school. If I go to school right now it'll cost me $3000 for community college, if I work it'll take me even longer to get my greencard, and I visited the DMV three times and I got rejected. I actually WANT to go to school, I WANT to work, I most definitely WANT to drive. I'm living in pretty harsh conditions right now but I'm thankful that I'm a bit more fortunate than other immigrants who have it even more rough.

Think before you fvcking speak, who the fvck do you think you are.

 

[pg_lost]

I was a trashy immigrant too. But I use to, and still till this day, take the bus. You can afford to take the bus once in a while dont you. Also, if you have no money, getting a ride to see your friends, will only be good, if you guys do things together that dont cost money. SO how do you have fun with your friends. Why cant you just take the bus, instead of using some chick and stringing her along (Thats what you are doing, no matter how you look at it, be honest). I dont think there is any excuse for using someone like that. I am sorry for you situation, I was in that exact same situation for a long time, and I lived in government housing where people would offer my dad weed as he was walking home from his night shift sh!t job. And there were shootings in my Building, let alone, the nieghbourhood. So Dont think i dont know what its like to live it rough. I am sorry you cant go to school, I guess you just gotta wait till you can, thats the only thing i sympathize with you about.

 

[pg_lost]

Also, just cause you dont have papers doesnt mean you cant work. I have worked in two factories in my life, get a factory job like all of us immigrants, you can find lots that only deal in cash. YOU DONT THINK I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, please.

 

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I can't do that because I'm so close to getting my green card that if I work, it'll be pushed even farther and that means I can't go to school for many many more years. I actually did work under the table for a month but it wasn't worth it at all. Took like 4 buses that took like an hour to get to the place where I was at, got $300 for an entire month and worked like 6 hours a day. I was finally getting money but my time versus the amount of money I was getting, I'd rather spend my time elsewhere. And of course I know stringing her along is morally wrong, but I put my wants and needs in front of me. I have nightmares telling me that I need to go out, I even saw a psychiatrist about it and he told me my nightmares are telling me to go out more. He actually told me the nightmare I had is very common for those that stay indoors often. It's where you're trapped inside a large mansion and you're being constantly chased out by a scary entity depending on what the person fears (in my case it's usually either Jason from Friday the 13th, large dinosaurs, or aliens) and it basically wants me out of the house.

Plus there's no bus that really runs through my city to their area because it's in different counties. Even if there was I would have to go through all the ghetto areas. 20 minute drive was being generous, it's more like 40 minutes. The other day I actually did try hitting up some old friends that actually lived in my area, but I live in such ghetto surroundings and people are such ****s, that's why most of my friends are 40 minutes away.

And I'm not assuming you don't know how it feels like to be an immigrant, I just hated it how you assumed I was some lazy slob that didn't want to do anything but stay home all day. It was very ignorant and insulting. I'm not here arguing who had the worst life growing up in America, I'm just defending myself of false accusations.