"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stuck in the middle?

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Well hopefully I can get some advice on how to approach this situation...

It would take forever to explain the backround stories of each of these girls so I wont. I'll keep it plain and simple, two girls like me... I like one more then the other but having her as a girlfriend would take quite a bit of effort and theres a very good possibility that it may never happen.

The other girl is great and would date me if I asked her out right now... but I'm not as into her as the other girl...

I'm really not sure what to do, basically what I'm wondering is is how to go about trying to date the one that takes more effort while still keeping the other girl in the picture. If I take to long to decide I may lose both, which I definately do not want to happen.

If you have any question ask me guys I'm desperate for some help here.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Take more effort?

Either:

A. She's high maintenance

B. She isn't quite head over heels for you just yet

Let me tell you - high maintenance girls are no fun. They usually end up being extremely selfish and put you far from first. I used to be a sucker for these type of girls (the challenge), but have learned through many rough relationships that it's usually not worth it (even if she's a 10).

On the other hand, maybe she just isn't head over heels for you yet (or ever).

The best advice I can tell you is that if you feel like you're "working" to fall in 'love' with someone or enter a relationship, then you're bound to fail. The ones who try the hardest also fall the hardest. Hence why we say 'fall in love', not try for love.

Guys who put their arm and limb on the line for a girl who has done little for them are the very ones getting them chopped off at closing time.

I suggest you don't make any rash moves and keep talking to both these women. The women who give you more, you in return should give back. The women who don't give you much, don't give them anything. This is the only way to avoid being one of 'those guys' who is enslaved to his woman from the get-go.

You'll see a lot of guys on here preaching the rule - Don't do too much for a girl in the beginning, or she'll expect it from then on. It's very true.

Only give back if you receive, as this teaches a woman to learn that things should be mutual. You shouldn't be going out of your way for nothing.

Enough beating a dead horse. Go beat something better.
 
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