Stuck as a friend?

[Redblue]

Hi guys,
I'm usually a bit hestiant to write on here because it seems to be full of people tearing each other down and abusing each other. So if you don't want to actually give me any proper advice, please don't bother reading any further.

So firstly, here's my situation. I'm studying for a DVM, and just incase you didn't know, vet school is about 80-90% female. Because of this, I have absolutely no problems at all talking to women. Most of my friends these days are women, not for any reason other than that is who I see all day every day. Now that that is sorted out, here is my actual question- There is a girl at university with me who I never really talked to until recently. I knew her previously, but we didn't get talking until a few weeks ago when we were at dinner with a group of mutual friends. The pair of us were getting along well and ever since we have been seeing a fair bit of each other at university. We paired up for some lab classes, she even turned down being with her friends to be with me. We have fun teasing each other playfully etc. I guess my question is this- How can I find out if I am just stuck as a friend or if she is genuinely interested in anything else? Should I just man up forget about the consequences and ask her out? Or am I already stuck in the 'nice guy but I wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole' category

 

[Trunks]

Should I just man up forget about the consequences and ask her out?

Yep, no more waiting. Be upfront about your intentions and no matter the outcome she'll respect you for it. Trust me, I've been in your situation and done both: being too passive/waited too long and gotten friendzoned, but now I just grab my cojones and go for it. No matter the outcome, you'll feel good about yourself for having the courage to do it, and more often than not even if the girl turned out to not be interested she'll respect you as a man, and it won't be awkward to be her friend if you choose to do so. Just remember: women don't respect men who don't have the nerve to make a move, even if they really like you.

 

[oscarxp25]

Just do it man...trust me.. I am in a current situation where I wish I made a move sooner because I am going to get friendzoned.

 

[Vespoli]

Very true, I can't remember which thread I read this from...but someone's sig said something to the effect of

"I'd rather get rejected for escalating too fast, then Friendzoned for not escalating at all"

I'm facing a similar problem, but it looks like im deeper in the friendzone then you.

 

[Spartan301]

Well the sooner you get out of the friend zone the better, but if you find yourself there anyway, it might not be a bad thing.

I actually was curious about it, and I found a video that someone made about what to do in the friend zone, especially with your really hot friends.

http://247attractiveman.com/hot-friends-situation

 

[Maxtro]

Invite her to do something fun with you.

When you're with her be physical.

Try to kiss her.

By doing those you will definitely find out what she thinks of you.

 

[wait_out]

Redblue... if you're a good guy with trust and interest built up rather than a sketchy stranger in a bar, there are some options you have PUA's don't. Which are incidentally far better. Invite her on a trip out of the city. Suggest going camping. Suggest anything fun that involves you two sleeping in the same location next to each other when the day's fun is over. If you're more worried about getting neutered than scaring her off this is an option. If she's interested enough, she will come eventually. Don't be too pushy -- give her weeks, if she really needs it.

If you're invested in her school and friends you're probably getting sized up as a boyfriend, not a fling. You put the option out there, she will go confer with her girlfriends and jump into your arms when she (and they) feel like its a good decision. Don't be surprised if she says no then changes her mind later, so don't be crestfallen or exude puppy-like joy if she eventually says yes. Slow burn is different than getting swept off your feet by a stranger. If she's already interested just keep things light and playful, lots of physical contact, until she finally decides to run off with you for a weekend. That's not permission to AFC either -- don't f*cvk it up! GL and congrats on vet school