"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stubborn friends, anyone?

Ojete

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Many times I have tried to help, encourage, give tips, show, etc. some of my friends when it comes to dealing with girls, be it approaching them, stop kissing their asses, not taking chances, etc. However, I always see the same pattern: no matter what, they 'revert' to their old ways of doing things.

When I say 'no matter what', I mean they've gone out with me, met girls, experienced more success when it came to closing, and taking initiative with them, and when their exes or other women in their lives have tried to **** with their situation, we have talked lots & lots about women and the whole thing. I have an older friend who knows all this **** through experience by himself and he has also given them support. Basically, they answer "wow man it was so easy!", or "I should have done that earlier" and **** like that, but then next week it seems like they forget what we have been talking and showing them in months and get their lives ****ed by some woman. Then, the cycle starts again. Has been happening with 5 friends so far.

So, for now, I say **** this friendly mates support line, they already know what do to, maybe they are looking for a quick fix and then like to be treated like ****.

Anyone in the same position who could give me some pointers? Thanks in advance :up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You aren't going to get anywhere unless they are asking for help.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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By the way, why are you so impassioned to change them? Why not accept them for who they are? How do their action effect your life?
 
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