strong/silent vs strong/loud

[ethnomethodologist]

I've got a friend who ALWAYS talks, it's like everybody turns their back on him when he's not around. When he does show up though, they are all ears. I am more a silent type in public, sometimes I say nothing for a long time, I'll go along with people, and I'll only speak when I see something REALLY wrong, or when everybody is excited I'll join in the fun.

How do you gusy deal?

Do you prefer to be loud, controlling the public eye? At times it seems as though people whisper when you play an outgoing person. There is no mystery, everything gets blown out of the water, and you get people talking about you in private when you are gone. I get sidetracked a lot from the girl I am talking to while doing this though, almost as though I can't CONTROL, who my attention is hooked to, just as long I am DOING something.

Or

Do you prefer to be silent? Play the field, listen to other peoples reactions, go with the dark stylee flow? I prefer this method, as I don't get distracted by anything or anybody, I can talk to a girl, and than choose to ignore her. I can walk up to anybody, and just give them a look down, no matter if they are the mouth, or the muscle or the mean b!tch, they all crack a smile before I do, than I walk away, and come back to speak with them later.

I can control both persona's pretty well, with results, that are less than spectacular. I go home a lone most of the time, becuase I am not looking to bed the ladies, when I WANT to, that's when I get the enrgy to do it. I am an introvert, I am only wanting things, when I get excited.

Ho do you guys choose your persona of the evening?

 

[Docs]

I can do both. I can not shut the fuck up and still see reaction. If the reaction sucks, she gets shunned. It's pretty damn simple.

 

[DJ4Real]

Strong and loud equal= "confident and loud"
Stong and silent="strong and mysterious"

 

[Adone]

I'm definately a loud party guy

 

[TheRenegadesOfFunk]

I have no preference. I'm usually an introvert personality (laid back and quite), people who do not know me sometimes see me as a shy/ timid guy. But when I feel like it I'll usually crack jokes, tell stories, take control of conversations...etc. I'm an actor (theatre) so I love performing in front of an audience. Some of the most confident people in the world have an introvert personality.

When playing the field- My advice is to try both perspective...
1) A Loud guy will learn to be more mysterious. Practice his listening skills, conversational skills, and reading body language.
2) A Quite guy will learn to be more social. Practice how to carry conversations, ****y/ funny personality, and kino.

Simple: Learn how to adapt in different environments. It's all about versatility and learning how to calibrate with different girls personalities.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Damn, all of you, including distant light, and finally reading some posts over at ASF, have shown me something. I don't know HALF the damned language you guys use. I use more than 95% of the techniques, but damn, you guys have cornered half of it to be able to say all of it in one paragraph if you tried and sound like a damned out of towner, completely different dialect than english is what I'm seeing.

DHV, calibrate, field, wingman, kino... I have got to start applying specific portions of the "game" to my repertoire, I keep freaking ignoring portions.

--added to "to do" list--
-Write FR, as many as I can memorize
-make preplayed FR's focusing on single concept of game

 

[Distant Light]

:crackup:

Saying those terms are just natural now for me, I don't know how i manage to remember alot of those little acronyms(sp?) (now if i could sit down and study my hw)

But ya

For past month been trying out new ways and what i found the best was:

Centre of attention - Yep everyone is looking at me listening to wtf I'm saying. Me dominating the frame, while most of my AMOG friends are also dominating, so its kind of all of us dominating

THe obeserved - I'm the guy everyone is watching to see what he is going to do next. Like when I have everyone watching me walk with these 2 girls, or me chating up girls. You can call me a power hungry type of guys cause I like being the prize and everyone coming in my reality

There are times when I do go back to my AFC state which is just laid back, serious, protector of the group, quiet. But lately i've become one of the biggest social proof hungry person. Can't go anywhere without Social Proof cause i like the IOIs that i get. Watch one day ima end up walking downtown with 6 SHB following me