"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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strong silent type works in high school?

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as many of you know, i'm gon' to move to another high school next monday (it'll be the 12th grade out of 13). in my ex-class the guy who got more poon was the strong silent (he was kinda jerk, he talked with just a few people and hung out with people from other schools, not with people of our class). the second who got more poon was me. the third was a really loud guy.
does this mean that the strong silent type is more appreciated than the loud one, in high school?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i dont think that you should go for the 'strong, silent dude' thing right away, considering that you are starting a new school. Get to know a few people at first, test the waters and then go for the silent-attitude if you feel the need for it.
 

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How well do you know him? Once you know a person personally, they become a lot different.
 

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Hey, when you're talking the top three poon-men in the class, and the loud one and quiet one are there, it means that either one is good. Though I'm more of a loud than strong silent type, that's just my personality. I can't see how strong and silent can get many friends, but if it works and that's how you want it, go for it.
 

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Iv never seen a particularly successful example of a strong but silent type. They tend to get easily confused with the AFCs who hang around at the back at parties. You can be strong and silent, but then convey with your actions and be confident. YOU CANNOT STAND AT THE BACK AND EXPECT THEM TO COME TO YOU.

The people who it works for are either extrememly good looking and lucky or outgoing at parties and the life and soul of a group, teh leader.

Well good luck, i want to hear more about this silent guy who got poon
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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maybe i didn't make myself clear enough... since i'm not english-spoken, i can be hard to understand, i know, italian school sux:)

when i say strong and silent, i don't mean someone who doesn't get noticed at all. this guy goes to clubs and asks girls out without any problems (often he's the one approached). it's just that he's not loud at all and talks just when necessary... he's not the one that makes the whole class laugh by tellin' funny stories... he tells'em to 3 or 4 people at once... he likes bein' the center of attention, but not when too much people is present.

can u get it now?! ask for other infos:)

by the way, after a date with my girlfriend, i hung out with my friends for an hour. i didn't act loud and funny as always and, all of a sudden, nobody made fun of me... i became the center of attention, without even sayin' a word... how can this happen?!
 

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That strong silent type your mentioning seems to me like someone who's confident and doesn't need to prove anything to anyone; doesn't really care whether he's getting all the attention or not.

That's a good thing.
 

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Typically when someone says they want to be the strong silent type they are talking about not needing to prove themselves (even when they do), it sounds like he is proven therefore there is no trouble attracting girls. Most people want to be able to sit in a corner and not have to work at all and expect that it will work, it does not. Unless you have laid the groundworkk and done the hard work already. The most important part being social proof.
 

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Well, you said you got the second most amount of punani? --Well, just keep doing what you were doing! Is there some kind of race or school record that you're trying to break? Just do what you were doing. You might get the most or you might get the 16th most. Just quit complaining. Focus more on quality not quantity. I won't sleep with an girl unless she is an 8 or up. Those below I use for material things. (I'm so bad.) :D
 

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Originally posted by Centy
i dont think that you should go for the 'strong, silent dude' thing right away, considering that you are starting a new school. Get to know a few people at first, test the waters and then go for the silent-attitude if you feel the need for it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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