Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Stringing a Girl Along, I Need Some Professional Help.

Alkali

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I like her, she likes me. All in all, she's a pretty sweet package:

-Very intelligent, she's basically top of the class.
-Extremely attractive, she's easily a nine.
-Very cool. What can I say, I like her.

She came off as pretty innocent but she definitely has a wild side. This kind of shook me up a little, I wasn't expecting it. I'm not really in a rush to go steady, in fact, I'm determined not to...yet. So this is unfamiliar territory for me. I'd like to be "friends with benefits" for a few months.

With me being her exclusive friend.

So yeah, I haven't done anything and she expects me to. I was hoping I could get some advice on doing it without making it "official" and all the responsibilities that come with that. While keeping her satisfied with the state of the relationship. Should I just move in and pray melodrama doesn't collapse on top of me?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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just go with it man.

don't worry about what she's wantin. just focus on what you want. maybe something works out, maybe not. keep your attachment in check. hopefully she does the same. if she doesn't, well, its not your bad. you were trying her out, she's not the one, what can ya do? think about it from her perspective, if you turned out to not be the one, i bet she fukk u off pritty darn quick. she won't care bout your feelings right. its a tryout. think of it as such.
 

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The investment was already made, oneitus has gripped us both. Sounds dirty to say, but there was a pretty solid connection from the get go. What can I say, I have a way about me. I just need to detach myself and become a dikc and I'd be right where I want to be. Alas, I get attached to beautiful, smart, and funny women.

I just want to limit my oneitus.
 

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ahh got ya.

well hey why not just go with it. she sounds like a sweet deal man.
if your worried about the oneitus; well; think of it as practice; try and control it. I dunno.
 

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My older friend told me the only way to get better with women is to get your heart broken. That sounds like it sucks. This seems like a prime opportunity too...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hmmm i wouldn't say getting your heart broken is what makes you better. Id say Experience is what makes you get better.

i say go for it man. you said it yourself. she's the goods. and so are you.
 

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Thanks lol, sorry about your dinner.

They were words of wisdom, so it wasn't a complete waste of an egg.
 

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FWB implies NONexclusivity, man.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"friends with benefits" with you being the only friends sounds to me like a relationship without any of the male disadvantages, only the female ones.

that said, if you're completely new at dating women, you have to start somewhere. I'd say an intelligent, beautiful, funny nine is a good way to do that.
 

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Dude, sometimes oneitis can be okay. If you guys like each other then enjoy. Don't get so tied up in wether or not shes a Republican while you pop ectasy and vote for the green party.

Alright maybe I went to far but to me it sounds like your trying to follow some ASF/DJ rulebook. Trust me, one of the most important things in this world is to be able to think for yourself. If you want a relationship then get a relationship. If you want a harem, then check into therapy, because no guy in his right mind can handle that many women on his own.
 

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haha it's like you're hungry but don't want to eat because you've heard sometimes people get indigestion....

okay, maybe that wasn't funny, but it made me laugh.
 

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Boo! Where's the help I need? It's closer to me being hungry and her being a burrito. She tastes/looks/smells good but is going to bring out some serious siht later. I'd much rather eat half of the burrito to avoid Montezuma's revenge and yet be satisfied. If that makes sense.

I don't want to share my burrito either. And I may want to try some side dishes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alkali said:
I'd like to be "friends with benefits" for a few months.

With me being her exclusive friend.

I was hoping I could get some advice on doing it without making it "official" and all the responsibilities that come with that. While keeping her satisfied with the state of the relationship. Should I just move in and pray melodrama doesn't collapse on top of me?

Aren't you counting your chickens before they're hatched?
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Aren't you counting your chickens before they're hatched?
True that. But I have the fertile eggs right here. So I might as well.

If I break them I'll go get more.
 
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