Striking while iron is hot vs. Waiting it out

[The LadyKiller]

2 different schools of thought. If you are attracted relationship-wise to a HB who gets a lot of male attention, which mode do you take?

My friends are suggesting I be patient and go slowly, easing into an eventual date. These friends, however, are not always around if I wanted to do a group event.

Meanwhile, I am on the other extreme. I want to strike now (same stance I have towards attacking my work, etc.)! At the same time, I don't want to falsely come off as patient. I've been burned by waiting before and seeing a HB date another guy.

This particularly HB has shown plenty IOI's, but recently figured out the Hard to Get game and is playing it to a T (she knows my "aggressive" work mentality, so it puts me in a bind). Adding to the headache.

So, what general philosophy do you guys use?

 

[j0504s]

2 different schools of thought. If you are attracted relationship-wise to a HB who gets a lot of male attention, which mode do you take?

My friends are suggesting I be patient and go slowly, easing into an eventual date. These friends, however, are not always around if I wanted to do a group event.

Meanwhile, I am on the other extreme. I want to strike now (same stance I have towards attacking my work, etc.)! At the same time, I don't want to falsely come off as patient. I've been burned by waiting before and seeing a HB date another guy.

This particularly HB has shown plenty IOI's, but recently figured out the Hard to Get game and is playing it to a T (she knows my "aggressive" work mentality, so it puts me in a bind). Adding to the headache.

So, what general philosophy do you guys use?

Taken from THE JUDGE himself Nismo-4

"40. Good things come to those who wait.

Guys, change this wait sh*t to ACT! Do men withhold sex from women? Rarely."

 

[Deep Dish]

Law 35: Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

You have to respect the momentum. Strike too late, spend too much time in the comfort stage, and you're just friends; strike too early, without enough comfort, and she will reject or flake.

 

[Uncharted]

Just go for it. If she's playing hard to get that means she is either playing games or not interested. Ask her out. If she is interested she will go even if she's playing hard to get. She won't play "too hard" because then she'll lose you.

The best way to know for sure is to just ask her out. Otherwise you could be waiting weeks and thinking to yourself "What if....."

 

[Mike32ct]

Just go for it. If she's playing hard to get that means she is either playing games or not interested. Ask her out. If she is interested she will go even if she's playing hard to get. She won't play "too hard" because then she'll lose you.

The best way to know for sure is to just ask her out. Otherwise you could be waiting weeks and thinking to yourself "What if....."

I agree with this.

Yeah, it's POSSIBLE that you could ignore a AW (or move very slowly with one) and have her come after you. But the planets need to be aligned (ie you're good looking and her type, she's strongly attracted to you, and she's aggressive enough to make a move).

Do you want to gamble on something like that? Just make a move and find out for sure.

Competition is fierce today. F waiting.

 

[crossedup]

For me, I almost have to wait it out. I'm so busy week in week out focusing on my career and dreams that I don't have time to see a girl more than once every two weeks, and this f*cks me over bad with most of them. I see high interest fade to nothing when I have to wait. It's just the way it is now I guess, girls will forget about you unless you completely blow them away. Hell, I drive a nice car, been told I'm good looking and confident, muscular, and ambitious and they still forget me.

I'm in the strike while the iron's hot club, waiting has brought me nothing but stress and heartache so far. The worst is when you find one you actually like and you lose her due to passivity. Go in strong and stop giving a f*ck, I'm working every day to develop this attitude and it's so hard, since I've always cared deeply about others opinions, but will be so worth it once I figure it out.

 

[Kailex]

Waiting is an investment of your time. Would you want to find out the hard way, eventually, that you wasted that investment?

 

[Cremasta]

From personal experience...

Being patient = Blue Balls
Strike Now = Empty Balls