"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJ1234

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Ok, so it seems that many (including myself) have trouble striking conversation with girls and keeping them going...and the way to start talking to a girl is to be funny and ****y as well as asking open-ended questions and keeping the conversation going by responding to what she says through the "clues" she gives you which is what you should say next. ...much easier said than done. It seems I have a hard time thinking of things to come up with to say after she is done talking, :confused: so exactly how are you suppose to keep the conversation going based on what she is saying and what are some specific examples of open-ended questions and funny things that are and can be generally used to keep the conversation going?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SenorSuave

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Easy enough. I usually open with an opinion opener, like Style's ex-girlfriend or cologne opener. To continue conversation, just use key words and branch off of them. Say she says she likes Pizza. Pizza's Italian food so use this to branch off, "Yeah I love pizza; always wanted to go to Italy and try some authentic stuff though." Something along those lines.
 

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Really if you're relaxed you have no problem making conversation. Just the mindset really. I find a oneitis especially tough to talk to, cause you worry too much about what to say, and you get in that mode where you're searching and scrambling for words and they all come out wrong.

One part of me that I really needed to improve were my conversation skills. After my confidence went way up, next thing was to be nicer to people and more open. In turn, being nicer to people made it easier to talk to them. You don't always have to be ****y or funny. Just ask people how their days are or whatever and branch off from there.
 

SiYuan

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eko said:
Really if you're relaxed you have no problem making conversation. Just the mindset really. I find a oneitis especially tough to talk to, cause you worry too much about what to say, and you get in that mode where you're searching and scrambling for words and they all come out wrong.

One part of me that I really needed to improve were my conversation skills. After my confidence went way up, next thing was to be nicer to people and more open. In turn, being nicer to people made it easier to talk to them. You don't always have to be ****y or funny. Just ask people how their days are or whatever and branch off from there.
I agree with the oneitis part.:up:
 

Snow Plowman

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It's about being "Authentic" and talking about what you want to talk about. If you think whatever your saying is cool then she'll believe so too.

Practicing talking about random things. Remember all this is emotional so its no need to be logical and branch off each sentence. (Even though there isn't nothing really wrong with that) But practice just mixing up talking regular and using attract material here and there. If you have a hard time speaking then learn like 2 or 3 routines and use those whenever the conversation is dieing down.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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