So, I'm in vacation in Toronto and I went to explore the city. There were a lot of women just walking around, but I don't know man, it was just so hard to approach them. They're either always walking or standing and I don't know man, street approaching is just difficult. The reason it's difficult for me to even approach on the street is I'm afraid the girl wont be interested or she'll ignore me. I finally did get an approach in and chick was like "I'm sorry, no" and I tried to just ignore it and go on, and then she says "Sorry, I'm with them". Pretty pathetic, about 5 hours of walking around and I only had the balls to go up to one girl.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Street approaching is hard man.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Never approach a moving target. Wait till she's stopped walking. Stalk a little if you must. If you really have to, touch their arm and get right in the path of them and say something quick. You'll probably have zero chance.
Well, the odds aren't that good to stop a moving target, but really what do you have to lose? Like you said your on vacation in a place where you've never seen people and will probably never see them again. Vacations are usually where I make my best approaches because there isn't really any pressure.
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I like shop approaches the best.
But really, yesterday someone just said "hi" to 2 girls and they stopped and we talked with em.
i got the phone no.
But really, yesterday someone just said "hi" to 2 girls and they stopped and we talked with em.
i got the phone no.
GaryUranga
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dude, read mysterys stuff or somehting , he specializes oj the kind of stuff you like, and waht he mainly speaks about is not makign her unconfortable
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Try making eye contact first. They say that the eyes never lie. If they are moving, you'll have a tough time.
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Every girl you approach will make those balls grow bigger, seize every opportunity to do what is hard and approach women.
Exactly. Street approaches are a lot easier if you ask a question about the environment, followed by an open-ended question about the environment, followed by a personal question about herself, followed by asking her name, and then chatting.
Example with her giving you very little help:
Me: Hey! Do you know if there are any shops around here?
Her: No, sorry, I dont know of any.
Me: What do you know about this area?
Her: Well, there's a subway down the street that way that might take you to a shopping center.
Me: Can I get your number so we can make babies later?
Her: Sure, its XXX-XXXX. Btw, if you call me and I dont pick up, just stop by my place, the door will be unlocked for you and i'll be in the bedroom waiting for lingerie?
Me: Ha! You're only an HB4, you think I'd really call you?
Her: My friend HB3.5 (points to friend) will be over also and you can have both of us. Any hole you want is yours to explore.
Me: I'll take HB3.5's number but you can keep yours. I like my women with neck rolls!
Her: Make sure you call! You better call! Call ok? PLs call! BYE!!! Remember to Call!!
Example with her giving you very little help:
Me: Hey! Do you know if there are any shops around here?
Her: No, sorry, I dont know of any.
Me: What do you know about this area?
Her: Well, there's a subway down the street that way that might take you to a shopping center.
Me: Can I get your number so we can make babies later?
Her: Sure, its XXX-XXXX. Btw, if you call me and I dont pick up, just stop by my place, the door will be unlocked for you and i'll be in the bedroom waiting for lingerie?
Me: Ha! You're only an HB4, you think I'd really call you?
Her: My friend HB3.5 (points to friend) will be over also and you can have both of us. Any hole you want is yours to explore.
Me: I'll take HB3.5's number but you can keep yours. I like my women with neck rolls!
Her: Make sure you call! You better call! Call ok? PLs call! BYE!!! Remember to Call!!
GaryUranga
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I call your HB3.5 and raise if to a HB5
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
jesusrules
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Bling said:
agreed with that.
You have to get that feeling out of your head. just think girls are like cars, there will always be more. so dont really worry about f*cking up theres tons of girls. practice and learn.ElStud said:
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This makes me think of George Carlin's bit: "I've never fvcked a ten, but I once fvcked 5 twos.:crackup:Charm said:
WesCottII
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Frame sucks.....
If you go in with the "I think she might ignore me" attitude. Guess whats gonna happen? She's going to ignore you.
Go in with the "I'M THE MOTHERFCKING BEST GUY IN THIS CITY" attitude, and she'll listen. She'll have no choice, because you'll present such a great aura.
If you go in with the "I think she might ignore me" attitude. Guess whats gonna happen? She's going to ignore you.
Go in with the "I'M THE MOTHERFCKING BEST GUY IN THIS CITY" attitude, and she'll listen. She'll have no choice, because you'll present such a great aura.
nicenomore
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dude.... i face a hell of this problem...
its about "social pressure" ..tha is the feeling of what will others think of me...
secondly, even the fallacy of "perfect approach" .. mentally hoping everything goes perfectly.
but ur better than me bro.. u approach a hell lot more than me.. i shuld learn fro u....
its about "social pressure" ..tha is the feeling of what will others think of me...
secondly, even the fallacy of "perfect approach" .. mentally hoping everything goes perfectly.
but ur better than me bro.. u approach a hell lot more than me.. i shuld learn fro u....
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nygard
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Why dont you try like bumping into them, and tease them for that? You dont have to appear out of nowhere to get their attention. And dont forget that no matter how hot they are, they're still human: They feel, think, have their bad days, etc. they're not anything else.
Hey, even if you get rejected, you'll learn from it. You wont learn that much from sucess. I'd make an example with artificial neural networks and learning, but nobody wants to hear about that
Hey, even if you get rejected, you'll learn from it. You wont learn that much from sucess. I'd make an example with artificial neural networks and learning, but nobody wants to hear about that
I like this topic. I had a major issue with street approciating too. Its a hell of a lot eaisier if your with your friends. But even if you live in the area and no everything about the area, still ask her stuff like "Were is stores around here?" Or something of that nature. WOrks everytime. And if she ignores you with that approach....think about how ugly you are or take my thought and believe that she's a rude biacth! But I think thats the best way street approaching asking directions then telling her your name and knowing about her....She cant get away after talking to you!
Ok elstud man you have to realize if they so "I'm sorry, no", then they clearly don't want to be bothered. Your extremely stubborn and don't listen to any of the advice these people are willing to give, yet you go out everyday and get shot down. Do you see what I'm saying? Take some of there advice, if a girls busy like on the phone, don't go up to her shes not going to respond, and don't say I really don't care I just want to get in the sets, because honestly, what is it doing for you if these girls aren't even paying attention to you. I will say something that you have a lot of courage just to talk to these girls, so thats good but just take it slow, if they aren't paying attention or something just let them go and move on to the next girl.
nicenomore
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el
just dont think how hard is it , how easy is it , or what the girl will sy or anything for that matter... let go of the outcome.....
it doesnt matter.. let go of yourself.. feel no emotion before the pickup.
If you can do it , you'll remove all anxiety .. because you'll let go of the outcome..
just dont think how hard is it , how easy is it , or what the girl will sy or anything for that matter... let go of the outcome.....
it doesnt matter.. let go of yourself.. feel no emotion before the pickup.
If you can do it , you'll remove all anxiety .. because you'll let go of the outcome..
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.