Strategies aren’t healthy

[darksprezzatura]

For all the new to the scene Machiavellis here, strategies do work to get laid. I don’t think it’s helpful to find meaningful connection anymore.

After experiencing sexual abundance, you don’t really crave for it anymore. It’s fine, it’s there.

A meaningful connection can you help you grow, recharge you, motivate you and possibly be long term. And I’m not saying that person is the “one”. That’s hasn’t been true for me in any scenario.

For a very long time I believed in the idea of “withdrawing attention/ignoring” when a date did something I didn’t like, and “giving attention” when she did something I liked.

The slight issue with this was I often deluded myself into thinking was me withdrawing attention was me “focusing on myself”, but this intent turned out to be vindictive and vengeful, and eventually drained me.

I’m beginning to realise that if someone you care for acts in a way that you don’t like, you can calmly tell them that in a non confrontational way. If they continue on that path, you can decide to take your soft space to truly reevaluate if you would be okay with that behaviour if they never changed or if you need to let it go.

This space SHOULD NOT come from a place of eliciting her response (or lack thereof) to it, or to modify her behaviour .

As your date might react anxiously to the detachment, temporarily correct their behaviour. In turn stroking your ego and ironically performing a sort of behaviour modification on you. Once their temporary “chase” is calmed down after your return, they will indeed return back to status quo. This helps no one, fracturing parts of the relationship in the process.

I’m still a bit naive to this thought process and wrote it dow here just to organise my thoughts.

Happy weekend!

 

[darksprezzatura]

“I still care, and that’s exactly why I can’t play games anymore.

If this connection can’t meet me where I am without strategy, I’d rather feel the grief than the dysfunction.”